Really wish people wouldn't being screaming infants to the d

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Some of us have sensory issues and it is like torture having to wait in line with that. They can get a sitter, or not breed. I'm really frustrated right now.

What does the D stand for?

I wish people didn't bring screaming infants anywere. Babies...*shudder*

I can relate to your pain (I also have auditory hypersensitivity), but really, there is no way around it. Parents are going to have to bring babies into public places sometimes, and those babies might decide to cry.

Not all parents can afford a sitter. Those who have one might only be able to get a sitter at certain times, and they might really need to buy something without much warning. (Eg - baby gets diarrhoea and they're low on diapers, baby is formula fed and they run out of formula, mom is extremely stressed out with colicky baby and needs comfort food, the possibilities go on.)

As for not breeding, well, first, not all babies are planned, so some parents don't get that choice. Their choices are abort (which they may have ethical issues with), put the child up for adoption (also possible ethical issues, especially if they're non-white since white babies are preferred by most adopting families) or get ready to parent even though they weren't planning to.

Secondly, a lot of people don't realize that 'not breeding' isn't an acceptable option for many people. There is an innate urge to reproduce, and it's entirely separate from the urge to have sex. (As an asexual woman who longs to be a mother, I know this firsthand.) Not everyone gets this urge, but for those who do, the thought of never having a child is devastating. It feels like no matter what else you achieve, there'll always be something missing, until you have that kid. Unless you've felt it, you really can't understand how much someone like this would be giving up if they decide not to reproduce.

And to say someone should go their whole lives without the wonderful feeling of having a child, or put their life on hold and be housebound until that child is an 'acceptable' age, just because of a few minutes of pain when you listen to that child crying, seems pretty selfish to me.

Look after your own needs, but don't expect other people to give up their needs for yours.

It is hard for parents if a baby goes into crying mode, and I do feel sympathy for the mother. It's a very tough job. Usually I just put in the earplugs and the sound becomes tolerable, if distracting. If they are in a place where they can't go someplace to quiet the baby or attend to their needs, like an airplane, there's not much to be done, and I just shrug and pray. What really bugs me though, is when I see a mother sit there and ignore their baby's cries and not attempt to comfort them. She doesn't try to hold it, talk to it, check its diaper or temperature, just looks away and looks annoyed, like the baby is just baggage. That really pisses me off. Okay, maybe she didn't expect this child, but she could treat it like a human being and try to comfort it. I sometimes make funny faces or trill at the baby in an attempt to distract them from their discomfort. It even works sometimes (to the bemusement of the people around me).

What REALLY annoys me are people who take a child out who is clearly ill, especially in cold weather. And of course, these are same people who don't train their 5+ year old children to cough into their elbow or hands. And now I have a head cold on Christmas weekend, AGAIN. Grrrrr

If it were an issue for me I'd carry some earplugs.

Good question.

I think the OP was gonna type "DMV" (department of motor vehicles) and it got cut off. That's where we Americans get our driver's licenses, and such from.

I'm thinking "deli."

I sympathize with you---but, many times, people can't get babysitters at a moment's notice. That's the way babies are: they cry and scream.

I don't care for it myself--it frustrates me to the hilt.

But it's something we have to deal with.

One of the good things about my tobacco addiction is that, as I roll my own, I always carry filter tips with me. They come in packs of a hundred, fit perfectly into my ears after a little squeeze, are disposable and therefore hygienic, - and this way, I always carry earplugs with me.
They're also small enough to not cause strange reactions immediately.

Consider picking up smoking, or, just buy a pack of slim filters (around 1 euro for 100pcs) and put it in your pocket.

LOL - this thread is really bizarre. Telling people not to breed; telling people to take up smoking. It's a good thing the days are going to get longer now (in the Northern hemisphere, anyway) because I think we are experiencing a little seasonal insanity.

It was cut off I meant to say DMV.

I hate loud toddlers as well.

Telling me "they can't help it" and "you was a screaming toddler once" does not make me any less intolerant of them.

Small children are so unpredictable. Not all, but most. One minute they're calm, happy and having a conversation with their parent, and then the next minute they're whining and crying and throwing themselves on to the floor.

It's more annoying when people bring children under 4 into restaurants. Some restaurants you don't mind, but when you go to quite an expensive but small restaurant with calming music in the background and the tables are all set out for adults or older children to come and enjoy a nice quiet meal, the last thing you want is a noisy family entering the restaurant with small kids that are like 10 months apart in age; a grizzly 10-month-old, a "everything-must-go-my-way-or-I'm-going-to-throw-the-world's-loudest-tantrum" 20-month-old, a 2-year-old who's just as bad as the 20-month-old, a 3-year-old who is full of energy and loves the sound of it's own voice, and a 4-year-old who shows authority over his young siblings by teasing them and making them whine and cry. And, on top of that, all 5 kids don't hardly eat anything of their meals anyway.

It's just not practical. And it's not fair on those of us who want at least one day out without having to listen to other people's kids.

I agree on the restaurant thing. There were a number of years we couldn't go into restaurants at all (other than McDonalds) for this reason - mainly out of consideration for other diners.

you're on foot- doing business in a DMV center- and you cant handle the "sensory overload" of occasional babies crying?

Then you cant handle the sensory input of driving a car.

And therefore you shouldn't even be allowed to drive.

And therefore you have no right to even BE in a DMV office.

Babies are going to cry...nothing you can do about that. Just bring your tablet/phone, and put the earphones on. Listen to the music while you watch for your number to be called.

That's the only solution.

Babies crying does not bother me as much as when babies cry, and the parents do nothing to attempt to soothe the child. This applies to toddler who are being obnoxious as well. It can be relatively easy to occupy or soothe a person under 4. It bothers me much more when they are treated as though their discomfort doesn't matter. My children were not criers, not because they didn't get upset, but because we met their needs. My son cried enough (or was unsettled enough) to qualify as a colicky baby (technically, any baby that cries in excess of 3 hours at least 3 days a week. He cried 3 hours EVERY DAY for 3 months). I did NOT bring him out at those times, however, unless he was 'worn', as it was one of the few things that would soothe him at this age (unfortunately not discovered until he had nearly grown out of this phase).

I guess what I'm asking is, does the crying bother you? Or the fact that someone is upset, and being ignored?