Birthdays and pretty much every other 'day'

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Yo! Been a while since I've posted here, but I'd just like to hear everyone else's perception of these pesky social customs..

Basically, I have willingly stopped celebrating my birthdays when I was about 8. I do not perceive the New Year's Eve, birthdays or any other day dedicated to anything as 'important'. The problem, though, arises when it doesn't agree with how someone else views these days.. Namely, people getting 'hurt' because I do not care for someone else's birthday, the same way I do not care for mine.

I have also made hiding the date of my birth a personal mission, in order to avoid all the fuss and attention that would come from people close to me knowing.

How do you guys and gals see these 'days' and do you also tend to avoid them?

Not having friends makes things easier. Or you could just bite the bullet and do stuff on those days.

I never really cared for my birthday besides the getting gifts part as a kid. Most anything I want I'd have to buy myself so my parents just give me money as an adult & mom would bake me a cake when I lived with my parents which was good. I'm an only child & I never really had many friends outside of work & school so I never really had a reason to have a birthday party.
I never really like holidays except for getting out of school as a kid & I liked getting presents as a kid. My family quit exchanging gifts with each other after I became an adult so I just get money from my parents.

I don't care about my birthdays, really, but I just like to be remembered.

I do like buying gifts for people and doing nice things for them on their birthday. I like to make people happy. I don't like birthday parties, though.

If someone close to me forgets my birthday, I feel sad, because it makes me feel as though I don't matter to them.

I have a very good memory for people's birthdays, so I don't usually forget. I'm not sure why.

I like to celebrate things. Even pancake day, which was two days ago.

I am not too big on Halloween or bonfire night, although I would go to an event related to those if I was invited. Christmas is incredibly hard to ignore, and I like getting gifts for my family, but somehow most Brits think that Christmas is for children only, which I find very irksome when people say that.

Valentine's day is nice because I have a boyfriend, and I like Easter because it's in the spring and the springtime is my favourite time of the year. Also my birthday is April and I love to celebrate that.

New years eve is the worst one for me, because it makes me feel like the only 20-something-year-old who is not out partying the night away. So I get a temporary depression over the new year. I don't care for parties and drinking alcohol, but society makes me feel guilty for not caring, for some reason.

I feel like most of that holiday stuff is just stuff that goes on around me that I am not really connected to. I like Halloween and Christmas lights, and candy, but that is about it. I would be perfectly fine if no one said happy birthday to me. Birthdays still mean something being a kid and becoming 16, 17, 18. But I figure that will begin stopping after 18.

I guess I deal with it as looking at it as someone elses thing. Same with stuff like the Superbowl that everyone is going nuts over right now.

I like to celebrate others' birthdays but not my own. When I was young not much effort was made to make sure it was celebrated and sometimes it was just plain forgotten. Now I too hide my birthday but really for two reasons. First because I'd rather have people not say happy birthday to me because they don't know it was my birthday over them not saying it because they forgot/don't care. Makes the lack of happy birthday easier to take if that makes sense. Second because I stopped celebrating it when I was young I really don't know how to react if someone remembered.

it means I managed to survive yet another year and that is something to celebrate.