Does anyone else not actually want a relationship?

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The predominant view I seem to find on here is that of wanting a relationship very much, but finding it hard to get there.

Meanwhile I genuinely do not want this. My main goal in life is to live independently though with as many animals as I am able to take care of. I do get lonely, but don't think that having a partner could ever be right for me or for them. I know that it would cause me more stress than I would be able to cope with. I need home to be a place where I can be myself, and it seems the only way I can do that is alone.

You sound like my Asperger friend that also feels as you do. She's older than both of us and has a few cats. She and I cliqued instantly. I am the only friend that goes up there to visit the cats as well. So, you are definitely not unusual to feel as you do.

If you mean a romantic relationship, I will be honest. I have been married for 15 years. I LOVE my husband and I am really glad that we are together and I would not trade him for anything. But as hard as it is for me to be in that kind of relationship with my specific Autism issues, if, God forbid, I were to ever lose my husband, I would not look for another one. But then again, I got him when I wasn't looking so I can't 100% rule it out. But it would have to be someone really really special. I would not want a romantic relationship just for the sake of having one. And that is how it was for me and my husband. I only married him because of who he specifically is. I don't need that kind of relationship, I am very happy to live without it.

Now as far as just platonic friends go, the friends I have are very important to me. I don't know that I could live my life well without a handful of really close friends who love and understand me as I am in my authentic Autistic self.

I'm struggling in my relationship. It's not anything he's not doing right. It's me. I don't do well.

I saw a cute refrigerator magnet once that said, "Any woman looking for a husband has obviously never had one!"

<--- Wouldn't mind a relationship, but now that he's as old as dirt, it's too late to even look.

I have never had any desire for one. I'm not sure what I'd even do with one if I had one, it's not like if you've had enough for one day you can turn them off. Same with friends, I have no desire for one and I have no idea what I'd do with one if I had one.

Oh honey, don't feel that way. My mom sent me an article about two women in their late 90s who were in the same nursing home and fell in love and got married. If it's not too late for them, it's certainly not too late for you. You are a wonderful person Robin, it will come in time.

^Thanks, skibum. I appreciate that.

I have no interest in relationships. I have two friends and my parents. That's enough.

Not at the moment. Might change, might not.

I have a much lower need for relationships than most people I know, but every now and then I do feel that it would be nice to have someone special. Even if only for practical reasons it would be nice to have someone to help you out if you get injured or lose your job and 2 can live as cheaply as one (almost). Also it would be nice to have someone to explore new places, restaurants, etc. with.

It seems like a lot of women on the spectrum are asexual or at least have no interest in romantic relationships, I think the contrast is that most men on the spectrum probably do have an interest in a romantic relationships.

Being alone is pretty miserable to be honest, it's really boring and it sucks not having anyone there for you. Age 24, I'm not down for half century more of this ****.

I desire a relationship, but I do NOT desire a physical relationship. I wish I could fall in love and connect the way I see in the movies, or the way my friends do. While my husband (of 12 years) and I are close in many ways, we have quite a fractured relationship in many others. Much related to my undiagnosed state.

If we broke up, I would likely never find another.

I know I am too young to say for sure yet.
But at this time I have to say no.
I really prefer to be single.
The only thing that I see myself wanting in having a significant other, would just be having someone to help me.
It seems like trying to maintain a relationship would be a heavy burden that I am not equipped for.