Why we get meltdowns

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I feel really guilty because i think meltdowns is bad but why we get them, im afraid going to jail with bad people i dont want go near them would you feel scared of bad people in jail i saw the youtube channels about scared straight kids going jail some kids dont care but i would not like it but i would like someone is rough at me im very sensitive to things scared easily front volient people why aspergers meltdowns wants hurt thier parents hit them punch at person i dont like being bashed up so what you do next?

I think we get them because we have strong emotions and have trouble expressing them. And you're not going to go to jail unless you regularly hurt other people with your meltdowns.

Oh dear! I think this is my fault!

Berabara, my comment in the other topic was in response to EzraS and not you. I'm sure if you were prone to violent meltdowns that you would have had one by now. As for why? I agree with TheAP's, plus I'd add a steady build up of stress over a period of time to the mix.

I dont hit my mother or anyone but i used to when i was little i dont hit but i only hit on doors and bricks thats what happen to me by stress i dont like getting meltdown i do have strong emotions i dont like hitting people i have brusied my fingers but not my foot it hurts that i kicked the brick i ask for help check me out but but i saw blood on the sister door but alot but little bit blood that must be really hit really hard while crying

This is what I replied with in the other thread:

"It is possible to control meltdowns but it take practise and patience and you need to try and recognise the signs of one starting. I found the most effective thing to do is remove yourself as quickly as possible from the source/trigger of the meltdown. If this is a person - get away from them. Asking them not to follow will be pretty much impossible though as, if you're like me, you'll have trouble speaking. Get to somewhere quiet and then try deep breathing, counting, anything to refocus. When you're calm'ish, lie down and rest. Recovery for me can take from several hours to several days and the first thing I do is apologise to anyone I've offended as the guilt I feel afterwards is huge."

I'm so glad you're not violent towards your mother but I still think this the above could help save a few broken doors and fingers No one likes meltdowns and there will be a huge amount of guilt and embarrassment you feel afterwards. I've found that that's the hardest to deal with.

Im very nice to people most of time but emotions changes from sad to happy because my voice but most time im happy calm

Why the person follow me for? Explain easier

You're a nice guy, Berabara.

Is there a way you could control meltdowns before they start?

Some people I know take a few deep breaths.

Yeah what happen people follows me and what they would do?

If you can promise that you won't hurt yourself and hurt property, maybe you can get the people to not follow you.

I don't like being followed, either. I think it usually makes meltdowns worse.

They follow you because they fear you'll hurt yourself and hurt property.

What happens if people follow you when you're trying to get away to a quiet place during a meltdown? Try and make them understand beforehand that if you have a meltdown to leave you alone for a while. I know that there's nothing worse than having someone repeatedly trying to hug you and asking over and over again if "everything's ok" and "is there anything I can do".

Like I said, explain to your family the protocol you want them to follow.

But i did hurt my self after amber puts finger up at me but i the one finger up at them why i did that for?

Is Amber your sister?

Maybe she shouldn't have done that. Maybe you should talk to her about it.

I put finger up at them first so she put finger up back at me that why???

For me personally, I experience 'meltdowns' when I cannot adequately express myself and on occasions when my mind is ostensibly blank. It's difficult to explain but for the most part I feel like an utterly superfluous being, who has no real purpose in life. If I were to somehow calculate how much of my life I have spent staring absent-mindedly into space, I would be dreadfully shocked. It's absurd to me that someone who can appear almost lobotomised is deemed as "high-functioning".

Because siblings are a**holes to each other. But there is no greater love than that which we have for our siblings. My brother and I fought like animals regularly. Giving me the finger was the least of his crimes. He actually bit himself and convinced my mother that I bit him. I love him dearly, and its been a while since we really fought, but he can still be a bit of an a**hole towards me. Its just a sibling thing.