Being Underestimated.

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Do you get offended when people underestimate you? Like they automatically assume that you cant do something that you could actually do above and beyond their expectations? How do you respond?

During the last five years, I have conquered many things nobody, including me at times, thought I could do.

I think I prefer it to being overestimated. I would rather exceed expectations than fail to meet them.

Exceeding expectations would be what would occur if someone was to underestimate you, overestimation would lead to you failing to meet said expectations.

People have always automatically assumed I can't do something, won't be any good at something, didn't do something I state I did do, do, or have done. It's been the bane of my existence. Because, in my experience, it doesn't necessarily make me feel better to know that I exceed their low expectations, and it actually doesn't seem to get noticed by them that I DID in fact exceed them. It's usually just a "Oh."

So yes, it's offensive, I'm tired of it, and it makes me wonder what kind of complete loser do I seem to other people just right off the bat in first impressions, if they constantly do this to me.

Sorry but in my view it would be far more flattering if people assumed high expectations. Because that would mean they just took one look at you or had one conversation and thought "Wow I bet you're amazing."

It's NOT a good feeling in life for it to be more like "Wow I bet she's useless."

Does anyone honestly think that's better to live with than having to meet high expectations? It's horrible to live with.

Not from that perspective, no.
For me though, I don't tend to assume/realize I was underestimated until after the fact. So I still feel it's positive to learn, along with the other person, I can reach a little higher than I realized. I guess the downside is I'm often starting with lower expectations of myself. Such is life.