Confused feelings, can anyone relate?

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Sometimes I'll feel this aggression (?) towards my partner and I'll bite them, jab them, or smack them (with their own hand usually) I NEVER do this with excessive force though I'll often increase the force gradually until they ask me to stop.

To be clear, this isn't angry outburst behaviour and not something I'd do if I was in a bad mood with them or if we were having an argument. I'm not hurting them and like I said, if I bite too hard and they say stop, I stop. It's more playful but with this disturbing underlying aggression/ frustration. I'll also be affectionate with them during or after this.

I just don't understand where my behaviour is coming from. I often have worries and conflicted feelings about the relationship which possibly stems from my upbringing and the fact my partner is far more mature than me- could that be the cause?

Has anyone else found themselves behaving this way or similar?