Anyone here over 25 and living with their parents?

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neptunekh
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06 May 2017, 8:49 pm

I'm 33 and I live part time with my parents and my brother who is 38.

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06 May 2017, 8:55 pm

You aren't the only one. I do, too.

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06 May 2017, 10:00 pm

I'm not 25 yet...

I do know TONS of people over 25 who lives with their parents. Like, about more than 3/4s of all people I've met in my life.
But that has something to do with culture and financial gap or luck, and it has nothing to do with any form of dependence or incompetence.

So I'm not sure if that counts, because I don't live in a Western or European setting where individuals moves out around 16-18 years of age.

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06 May 2017, 10:11 pm

I'm 27, soon to be 28, and I'm living with mine. I'm not yet ready to spend so much money on rent.

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07 May 2017, 12:42 am

I lived on and off with mine until I was 36. Then they moved to the country and so I had to move back in with my ex-husband because I was still going to uni and couldn't do correspondence.

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07 May 2017, 2:04 am

I lived with my mom until I was 37

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07 May 2017, 2:12 am

I turn 27 in two weeks' time, and I still live with my mother and niece. I moved into supported accommodation last year for a period of six months, but I concluded that my house mates and the town in which I resided were bringing me down even further. Thus, I am back where I have spent the majority of my life.

However, I have agreed to move into my friend's (one and only) room in September. But again I suspect that won't work out as I have a propensity to annoy those around me, and she lives in quite a busy area which is likely to overwhelm me over time.

Unless I can either tolerate living in supported accommodation for those with mental health problems or find sustainable employment, I suspect I will be living with my mother the majority of my life. :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops:

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07 May 2017, 2:26 am

I'm 31 and I moved out when I was 29. I now rent a room, since that's all I can afford. I kind of want to move back home, but I kind of don't because my parents nag at me a bunch and my dad kind of bullied me (he's always been in denial about my AS and other issues).

Paying rent sucks though.

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07 May 2017, 2:32 am

I have done this in my 30s because my job was only 15 minutes from their house but 1 hour from my house - so I lived with them during the week and went to my home at the weekend.

Nowadays, in the UK at least, it seems quite normal for twenty-somethings to live with their parents due to high rent and house prices. According to government figures "a fifth of 25 to 29 year olds" live with their parents.

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07 May 2017, 2:40 am

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But that has something to do with culture and financial gap or luck, and it has nothing to do with any form of dependence or incompetence.

People say that, but it seems like a judgement is still put on adults who live with, or have moved back in with, parents or relatives. People still insinuate that you can't look after yourself and are immature, you're a failure, it's humiliating, etc. I don't like even mentioning that I live with relations.
I've moved around a bunch, but at the moment am staying with relatives, and I cannot stand it. They treat me like a ret*d infant even though I'm an adult, just because I'm staying in their place. Like it automatically reverts me back to childhood and they are entitled to treat me like a child. It's just really inappropriate, and I cannot WAIT to move back out. Hopefully very, very soon.

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07 May 2017, 4:08 am

C2V wrote:

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But that has something to do with culture and financial gap or luck, and it has nothing to do with any form of dependence or incompetence.

Then good luck figuring out how to move on... :shrug:

And soon too.
Sorry if it's sounds dismissive or insensitive, but it's probably because irrelevant from where I'm. Nor knew what it was like to be treated that way.
... Nor knew anyone treated that way.

In this culture's case, the children takes care of the parent. And usually inherits the house in the end. If the property IS actually owned by family.
As for the financial part, you probably had no idea :lol:

about several factors why people from my place usually cannot move out whether they want to or not, let alone own a place before their 50s even with combined effort. (Seen and knew such families.) It could be worse than that as to why individuals cannot or do not move out of the house. And people here usually do not beat up or berate others for it.

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So I'm not sure if that counts, because I don't live in a Western or European setting where individuals moves out around 16-18 years of age.

NOT being able to move out even after adulthood here IS a NORM.

But then again, vent all you like, but it's not what "People say" **here**.
Your situation is different from mine, in more ways than one. This is why, I usually say "From where I live". I guess, I have to always write that part from now on to avoid assumption and confusion. :lol:

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07 May 2017, 6:08 am

I wouldn't be, if it wasn't for my job. My boyfriend lives 25 miles away, and my job is in my hometown, so I spend every week-end over my boyfriend's. But I don't want to leave my job, and it's not easy for my boyfriend to move closer, so I'm kind of in a pickle. I want to move in and get married.

That's living as an average working class citizen in the UK for you, everything's expensive and jobs aren't easy to find, so it's harder for young people to leave the nest. That's conservative government of you.

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07 May 2017, 12:12 pm

No (I'm 23) but, unless something happens, it's getting there.

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07 May 2017, 3:31 pm

C2V wrote:

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But that has something to do with culture and financial gap or luck, and it has nothing to do with any form of dependence or incompetence.

I am almost 35 years old and have lived with my parents or my sister for the past 10 years. They can insinuate all that about me if they want. In my case, at least, all of it is true:
• I am immature and naive.
• I cannot look after myself.
• I have attempted and failed at being independent.
• My pride was deservedly lowered (My academic success made me think pridefully I could succeed at work and in life).

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07 May 2017, 4:17 pm

Knofskia wrote:

C2V wrote:

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But that has something to do with culture and financial gap or luck, and it has nothing to do with any form of dependence or incompetence.

I just turned 34 and I still live with my own father.

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07 May 2017, 10:35 pm

Me and my husband share our house with my parents.

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