Wanting to be understood

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I've had people (family, girlfriend) tell me that I often act like people should know what I'm thinking. I do this a lot. I just sort of assume they know what I'm thinking, because it seems really clear to me. They tell me 'you think I can read your mind.'

An example is when eating out at a restaurant, when the bill comes. I put my card in right away, and I wait for others. If they don't do that, then I think they think I'm supposed to pay for them. I don't want to make a fuss, so I let the server take my card and I pay meal. But then I tell them they have to pay the next one. Then they start apologizing, but I really don't care if they're sorry. They should pay attention when the bill comes! Is that too much to ask?

My girlfriend says I was being harsh and that they don't know that is what I was wanting from them and I should have said something before the check was taken. I guess, but they should know the drill!

Anyway, I just wonder if other people run into this problem. Where you think someone should know what you're thinking, but have to be told that they don't.

I get told that I expect people to know what I'm thinking all the time. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings to others. I guess sometimes I think that I'm really obvious and that others are always picking up on what I'm thinking and feeling, but I guess that isn't true all of the time.

I don't expect people to know what I'm actually thinking. They will likely fail whenever they assume or presume first before letting me explain.
Almost all people I came across failed to understand me. Mostly because they truly don't know how I actually see or thought of things.

If they assume I let them be. In return, I conclude that they do not need to know and I won't explain myself to them. Even if this means more confusion.

And, for being too assuming, they become vulnerable. Vulnerable enough for me to trick them or catch them off guard anytime.

If I'm the one who fails to understand, even if I had inquired too many times. Seems people prefer that I would rather pretend to understand them.
In return, if I should fail, I will never regret that I DID failed.

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