One on one interactions&becoming teary eyed

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28 Jun 2017, 4:46 pm

Does this happen to you? What causes it?

Recently I had a conversation with a woman about an unexpected change and this happened to her. She paused to explain that she doesn't know why it happens but that I shouldn't think she was upset.

I remembered having this same experience many times in the past, when I felt overwhelmed in general.
Is it the same as having an extreme response to something seemingly trivial?



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28 Jun 2017, 5:25 pm

I find that this sort of thing frequently happens when a seemingly "trivial" thing reminds the person of something which isn't quite trivial--perhaps a bad memory.



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28 Jun 2017, 6:41 pm

Are you talking about becoming upset during a conversation about something that is not upsetting?



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28 Jun 2017, 6:51 pm

The mind can be wired to connect several different thoughts, words, and memories together, and these connections can be positive, neutral, or negative. What you described would be that they experienced a negative connotation to what was said in the conversation. The thought or memory that came to them must have been emotionally overwhelming enough to cause them to tear up.



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28 Jun 2017, 7:33 pm

Not sure exactly what you mean but I get teary eyed when I have one on one interaction and I'm forcing myself to look into their eyes. Not sure why it happens.



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28 Jun 2017, 8:53 pm

It could also be that the woman is sentimental about something.

That the "change" you mentioned made her miss something that had occurred before the "change."



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29 Jun 2017, 2:01 am

Sorry about the confusion.

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Yes it's displaying the signs (tears) of being upset but without feeling upset about the topic being discussed.

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When this happened to me it was because I was overwhelmed and I think there were too many emotions to deal with when I had to do eye contact with person that felt concerned.

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Maybe the upset was about something else, or feeling overwhelmed in general, I think the eye contact might have been an additional challenge that caused the tears.

Could this be related to brain imaging studies where they suggested that there are neurological differences that cause these reactions?

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The amygdala acts as a kind of 'switchbox' between two parts of the brain:

Cerebral cortex: the part of the brain that processes sensory information, such as what you see, smell and hear. The cerebral cortex is also responsible for all of the higher functions of the brain, for example thought, language and problem solving.

The limbic system: the part of the brain that regulates your emotion.

The amygdala 'chooses' emotional responses from your limbic system and relays them to your cerebral cortex. This means that your emotions match the situation that you are in.

Brain imaging studies carried out in people with ASD suggest that the connections between the cerebral cortex, the amygdala and the limbic system have become scrambled.