Can't stop isolating myself and do same stuff over and over

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It's getting worse and I keep isolating myself for keeping my sanity. I do not live by myself, but we do have separate bedrooms. If a former friend contacts me I often get suspicious "why the hell she contacts me NOW, it's been months since Ive heard from her, Its too late now" and then it always end in the same way, we don't meet or I don't get much out of it anyway.

I know it's "not a life" to just lay in your bed with your phone, walking outside in the wood alone, buy food and go home again, play sims and pet the cat... but it's all I do mostly on my days even if I wish it would change. I've been to classes, clubs before but I just quit them all.

Can you relate to this or how to change?

Are you happy? If so, I don't see a problem with preferring solitude, and routine.

If you're not happy, and/or not functioning well... What specifically would you like to change?

Im actually both unhappy and happy at the same time. Unhappiness comes often when getting jobrelated questions and pressure from other people or my own worries about my future. I would like to change my problems being unflexible but just get anxious when getting off routins.

I hate job-related questions too. Every 'small talk' conversation eventually leads there, and it's a downer to be judged by every stranger you meet, who doesn't understand why you might be struggling in that area. (And job difficulties absolutely can lead to worrying about your future, so I hear you on that!)

Maybe try to set a small 'baby step' sort of goal, and work up your tolerance for stepping outside your comfort zone? I find it's best to start small, and gradually work up to a bigger goal.

2 books that are helping me:

1) The Loving Push by Debra Moore
2) Aspertools by Harold Reitman

One of my special interests is books, so I’ve loved reading. I’m no “success” at the moment, but it’s a process. Some days/weeks/years just suck, unfortunately.