I'll be interested in following this thread. Between the Sandy Hook anniversary and having my son formally evaluated, I'm a bloody wreck. I'm ready to accept that it's PTSD, if that's what it takes to DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS MESS.
I know where you're coming from on the crippling anxiety. I want to avoid benzodiazepines if I can, because they're addictive and I already know I'm predisposed to get hooked on downers and also because I'm EXTREMELY susceptible to sedation and if I'm sedated my very (possibly hyper-) active kids are, frankly, gonna die.
I'd rather live with the damn anxiety than get anywhere near another atypical antipsychotic ever ever again.
My therapist has suggested Buspar a couple of times. Yeah, if it's working for anyone, tell us all about it.
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"Alas, our dried voices when we whisper together are quiet and meaningless, as wind in dry grass, or rats' feet over broken glass in our dry cellar." --TS Eliot, "The Hollow Men"