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I like to build custom designed websites, I haven't been doing it for very long but it's my most marketable skill.
Also, I feel pretty embarrassed by the rant I went on. I don't know why I thought there was a feature on this site that let you edit your posts, I must have been thinking of another website. I came here today hoping to redact most of that post. I have an awful habit of going off on a tangent and sharing waaaayy more than I meant to and then regretting it hours later when I really think about it! 
On reflection I've realized that I really didn't need to share my anxiety attack with the internet, so I'm going to go ahead and not do that again! Lesson learned I suppose, thanks for your reply!
CockneyRebel
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29 Mar 2018, 1:22 pm
Welcome back! I hope your business goes well for you. 
29 Mar 2018, 2:35 pm
CockneyRebel wrote:
Welcome back! I hope your business goes well for you.
Thanks, I'm going to do my best!
29 Mar 2018, 3:55 pm
Khiori wrote:
I've been away from WP for a while, because lately I've been getting pretty overwhelmed. I've been working (for about a year) on starting my own business, because I have a hard time holding down a regular full time job. In the last few months I've gotten really close to the point where I think I can call myself open for business, and it's been causing me quite a bit of anxiety. It's been stressed to me over and over again that one of the most important parts of being your own business owner is marketing yourself to people and I am so, so bad at that. Truthfully there are about a million things I'm anxious about with this venture, which I think I'll eventually get into more on another thread. I was having problems with it, but I was coping pretty well overall.
My problem mostly came when I got accepted into a scholarship that I had applied to ages ago for an online course. I was so excited to be accepted, but it became one too many things when I was trying to create a job for myself as well. I started to get even more anxious and overwhelmed. I got to the point where I couldn't get much of anything done at all. I keep loosing myself in special interests that make me happy, but aren't really conducive to my progress toward any of my goals.
I'm the oldest of three sisters, but they are so much more successful than I am. These problems I'm having aren't anything my sisters couldn't handle and it's getting so frustrating for me. Why is this so hard for me? I should be finally getting to a point where my life is looking up, but I always end up drowning and I feel like such a failure.
I think I've been getting better, I try to only schedule one work or class related thing a day so I don't get too overwhelmed, but I feel like I'm moving through quicksand while everyone else is pulling ahead of me wearing jet packs. Where is my jet pack!?
I first started posting on WP in effort to socialize with real people, and recently I haven't even been able to handle that little bit of socializing. It took me days to work myself up to post today, and I'm not sure it was even a worthwhile accomplishment. How will I ever market myself to anyone, who would hire me?
If anyone has some tips for me I'd appreciate it, but I suppose I'm really just venting and trying to socialize with people. Thanks to anyone who reads this.
My problem mostly came when I got accepted into a scholarship that I had applied to ages ago for an online course. I was so excited to be accepted, but it became one too many things when I was trying to create a job for myself as well. I started to get even more anxious and overwhelmed. I got to the point where I couldn't get much of anything done at all. I keep loosing myself in special interests that make me happy, but aren't really conducive to my progress toward any of my goals.
I'm the oldest of three sisters, but they are so much more successful than I am. These problems I'm having aren't anything my sisters couldn't handle and it's getting so frustrating for me. Why is this so hard for me? I should be finally getting to a point where my life is looking up, but I always end up drowning and I feel like such a failure.
I think I've been getting better, I try to only schedule one work or class related thing a day so I don't get too overwhelmed, but I feel like I'm moving through quicksand while everyone else is pulling ahead of me wearing jet packs. Where is my jet pack!?
I first started posting on WP in effort to socialize with real people, and recently I haven't even been able to handle that little bit of socializing. It took me days to work myself up to post today, and I'm not sure it was even a worthwhile accomplishment. How will I ever market myself to anyone, who would hire me?
If anyone has some tips for me I'd appreciate it, but I suppose I'm really just venting and trying to socialize with people. Thanks to anyone who reads this.
Contrary to what I previously said, this is a competition; I can outdo you on the melodaramtic, woe-is-me front
Facetiousness aside, I feel so eerily similar to what you're talking about. Pretty much everything you're saying rings a very resounding bell with me. Just the other day I was even thinking along the same lines with the quicksand and jetpack allegory (except in my case it was everyone else having cars and me having either a rusty tricycle or a monocycle that I couldn't ride so much as fall off).
I don't mean to embarrass you, but you sound like a fantastic person. I think you should cut yourself some slack, because what you're going through sounds very much par for the course of ASC (or ASD/autism/whatever you want to call it). Things that stress you out don't bother NTs/allies, because they're wired differently, and that's hardly your fault.
I would dearly love to be able to offer you some actual advice, but I'm at a loss even for myself right now (hence my other posts today). I will say that you should check your PMs, though.
30 Mar 2018, 2:18 pm
agwhanooo wrote:
Contrary to what I previously said, this is a competition; I can outdo you on the melodaramtic, woe-is-me front
Facetiousness aside, I feel so eerily similar to what you're talking about. Pretty much everything you're saying rings a very resounding bell with me. Just the other day I was even thinking along the same lines with the quicksand and jetpack allegory (except in my case it was everyone else having cars and me having either a rusty tricycle or a monocycle that I couldn't ride so much as fall off).
I don't mean to embarrass you, but you sound like a fantastic person. I think you should cut yourself some slack, because what you're going through sounds very much par for the course of ASC (or ASD/autism/whatever you want to call it). Things that stress you out don't bother NTs/allies, because they're wired differently, and that's hardly your fault.
I would dearly love to be able to offer you some actual advice, but I'm at a loss even for myself right now (hence my other posts today). I will say that you should check your PMs, though.
Wow, thank you so much for this! It's nice to hear from someone who feels so similarly. You are right that I should try to cut myself more slack, I can certainly wind myself up pretty tight going around in circles in my own head. I'll be nicer to myself if you will!
I think that commiseration is sometimes more important than advice anyway, and on that front you've been quite successful. I actually checked my PMs last night, and I've spent the intervening time formulating some kind of reply in my head. I think I've got it now, though!
