Aspergers boyfriend blocked me for no reason

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Hello, I have NLD.
This guy with Aspergers and I met at a New Years Eve Party and shared our first kiss when the ball dropped. On January 2nd we started dating. He broke up with me March 2nd. Around the end of March he wanted to become friends with benefits. Throughout March until June we would fight about what we were. We had a strong physical connection but not emotional. On June 20th, we made plans to see a movie but he cancelled last minute and said he needed to be alone until August. I told him I felt like he used me for sex and he said he hadn't. He claimed the reason he has been so up and down with me was due to emotional stability. On July 29th, he reached out to me. He started reaching out to me a little more and more. On Tuesday, July 31st, when we were messaging each other, he vented to me about how sad and alone he felt. We talked about our releationship and how we felt. I told him I didn't want to just jump right back into it because I was taking school courses over the summer but once I got home I told him we could hangout and discuss it.
He understood. He admitted to me that he is now is into illegal substances. I've struggled with substance abuse myself but I'm completely against drug use. He has apparently met this girl that got him into drugs. His parents don't like me at all so I worry they'll think I'm giving him illegal substances. The last few time the guy and I chatted, it was brief and it was because I messaged him. I do know people with Aspergers tend to withdraw themselves from others and get overwhelmed easily.
I reached out to him a little over a month ago at 11:15 a.m and then between that time and 11 p.m he blocked me on Facebook and Messenger. I have no clue as to why. The last thing I said to him was, "Hey, I thought of another thing we could do when I get home." He sent me a message and said, "Oh?" I then said, "We could go for a boat ride." He didn't respond at all. Around midnight was when he blocked me. A week later he unadded me on snapchat. I kept my distant from him back in July because I had a feeling something like this would happen. I don't know if he has blocked my number but I don't plan on calling him or texting him anytime soon because it is his job to reach out and apologize. He just blocked me and unadded me without an explanation. Has anyone else had an Aspie do this to them? Is this normal for a guy with Aspergers? He is currently at college with some of his best friends and from my understanding he has pulled away from them and they've been best friends since 8th or 9th grade (which I'm assuming is due to the drug use). I don't dare text the guys (I'm friends with both of those guys) and I feel like I'm probably crossing a line in doing so. I did tell a few of my friends about the situation. One of them believes this guy is trying to manipulate me or lie to me because 8 months ago this guy was really against drug use and has always been up until June or July. I have seen proof of his vape and vape juice but besides those two things I haven't seen anything else.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?

This on and off type behavior is not typical of guys with Asperger's but I'd say it's not uncommon among people involved with drugs. It's also not uncommon among people with emotional instability. But Asperger's is not the same as emotional instability, that could be from a lot of different causes.

But it really doesn't matter, because you need to walk away from this guy. Find someone else, or just be single for a while. Although it might not have been intended that way, his behavior towards you is emotionally abusive. Don't overthink this. He treated you bad. Walk away.

He seems too unstable for friends let alone a romantic realtionship. It's possible he fell into a depression for some reason(maybe stress of trying to be more social & have a realtionship). Perhaps the girl reached out to him & they related & perhaps she was sort of pushing him into drugs. We don't know & may never know what & why happened to him. But either way whatever the reason is, I think it's best if you keep your distance & ignore him if he were to try & contact you again. You have to protect yourself.

It is an exceedingly rare event to be blocked for "No Reason" -- there is always a reason.

I block people who are either abusive or intrusive -- they either post false claims about me, or they want to know too much about me, to soon. For instance, right now there are 11 members of this community whose PMs addressed to me get deleted before I can read them.

And, my dear friends, this has NOTHING to do with drugs or "emotional instability" on my part. It has everything to do with the fact that I don't need their crap, and that I should not have to put up with it.

Lot of people seem to block their ex's. NT or aspie or not.

I think it's a way of moving on and forgetting about that person.

I've blocked my ex on Facebook because I got tired of seeing her name popping up in search when I type in a name and I didn't want to end up on her page accidentally if my mouse clicks on it when I am trying to click on a different name. It was for the sake of my own sanity. The experience I had with him at the time when she was a him sounded totally different on her page how she was representing herself than how she was to me when we were together. The relationship was horrible and the person she was showing who she is on her page was not the person I experienced in our relationship. Just shows you how not everyone is who they say they are just by reading what they write about themselves. So I never believe what people say about themselves. They can claim to be gentle and kind and caring and fun to chat with and I have doubts about that. Just because that is what they say about themselves doesn't make it true and that is just how they see themselves.

People can block you over a disagreement or because they didn't agree with what you wrote. It can be based on a political view. It can also happen based on a misunderstanding and some people have strong feelings about a certain topic so it makes it easy for them to twist what you say and ignore what you are actually saying. But I say f**k those people, I don't need to interact with anyone who is going to twist your words or who believes in conspiracy stuff and who are crazy.

And some people just simply block you because they think you don't like them or because you didn't respond to them fast enough. Some people can just block you over a comment you make online. This does happen on forums and social media.People can even block you even if you have not interacted with them in months or years because they don't like you.


So these are "no reasons" here for me. And sometimes people blocking you has nothing to do with you and it's more about them like the examples I listed above.

... a disagreement
... a political view
... a misunderstanding
... strong feelings
... they think you don't like them
... you didn't respond to them fast enough
... a comment you make online
... if you have not interacted with them in months or years
... they don't like you

Thus, there is ALWAYS a reason, no matter how (in)significant it may be.

Okay, I see you are being literal.

When people say they are blocked for no reason, what they mean is they did nothing wrong to deserve it. They were not harassing the person or threatening them or being mean or nasty to them. That is what the bock button is for but it is often misused. I am guilty of it myself. I have blocked people on reddit when I don't want to deal with their stupidity and trollish behavior and I don't have to worry about coming across those people again.

When people say they are mistreated "for no reason", what they mean is they BELIEVE they did nothing wrong to deserve it.

Or maybe they want YOU to believe that they did nothing wrong.

"She reported me for trolling, and for no reason! So what if I called her a b****? She deserved it!"

"He dumped me for no reason! So what if I made out with his brother; why's he's acting all high-and-mighty?"

"Those moderators banned me for no reason! It's not spamming, cross-posting and trolling! It's free speech!"

"Stupid cop arrested me for no reason! Those scratches on my boyfriend's car were just to get his attention!"

I could go on, but suffice it to say that the free world's prisons are full of people who were put there for no reason...

*PM's Fnord to see if I'm on the naughty boy's list*

"One private message had been removed due to private message filters."

I'm sure there's got to be a reason that he blocked you. I know that I'd rather be blocked than cyber bullied the way I once was.

So no one has blocked you when you weren't doing anything wrong? Like no one has blocked you if they didn't like your opinion or when you didn't respond to their message fast enough or when you called them out on their BS or caught them in their lie?

You have never come across a profile on social media to discover they have you blocked and you have never even met this person nor ever heard of them or spoken to them?

This is all common stuff on social media so I say get used to it, this is normal stuff so don't take it personal if you are on someone's naughty list. I once got put on someone's naughty list after we had been online friends for 8 years because I didn't want to listen to his conspiracies about Obama's birth certificate being fake. I just thought he was just being childish and let him have his tantrum and at least I wouldn't have to listen to his conservative views anymore. He was one of those people who like to be open about their conservative side. I just keep my mouth shut but I hate conspiracy theories so that time I couldn't keep my mouth shut and he got pissed at me about it when I told him I didn't want to hear it and then I signed out when he wouldn't shut up. Then he had the nerve to go on Facebook and talk about it again and then blocking me but his cat didn't block me and I didn't even care. I still didn't read his message.

I blocked my 1st girlfriend after we broke up & I quit the forums & groups we were both members of. I thought it would be easier for me to move on. She also had issues with drugs & alcohol that causes me to worry about her alot towards the end of our relationship which is some of the reason we broke up. After we broke up I saw her bragging online about how she drank so much she had to get her stomach pumped. I fell into a psychotic depression around the time our realtionship ended & I flipped out & ended up slashing my arm 9x & had to go the the ER cuz the docs offices were closed at the time. I blocked Emily for my own sanity.

Alright, when I say no reason I mean I don't know what I did to cause him to block me. A few days before that instant, we had been chatting about things we could do when I got home.
I reached out to him and I said, "Hey when I come home from my trip we could go for a boat ride." He then didn't respond. He left me on read. I was expecting that though. Then 12 hours later he blocked me without giving me a reason.