Eye rolling

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye-rolling

Guess i know now why so many people are hostile against me because i always look away and back on person and it could be seen as "eye rolling".

I have been criticized for this.

I don't think looking away and then back is considered eye rolling , the eyes have to roll like this ---->

I accidentally roll my eyes a lot, sun glasses help.

I actually do a lot of eye rolling. I hear people talking about values and their own stereotypes of people and I catch myself rolling my eyes.

I saw a comic strip a while ago where a girl is hearing people tell her all these things she's good at... for a girl. Each time someone says it, she rolls her eyes back a little further until finally only the whites are shown, and she begs them to stop because her eyes can't roll back any further.

When I was younger the was a For Better or for Worse comic where the mother, Elly, is yelling at her teen son Micheal, and then she yells at him again for rolling his eyes every time she stops. But then he rolls his eyes again and she gets so furious she grabs him by his shirt collar, Micheal then says, "I can't help it! It's an unconscious reaction to a negative stimulus!" Elly then lets him go, and rolls *her* eyes at what her son just said.

Ferris is right. And according to Malcolm Gladwell (I think it was in Blink) eye-rolling is a universal sign of contempt, across cultures. He even states that research has shown that if spouses are eye-rolling at each other, the major percentage will separate within five years, or maybe it was 10 years. Whatever it was, it makes me think twice of doing that eye roll.

The eye rolling emoticon seems completely out of synch on a support forum. It's always used in a hostile way.

If someone rolls their eyes at me, I feel like punching that someone.

Of course. Hostile contempt gestures whether online or IRL are meant to inflict nastiness on the target.

It said on on wiki that for years it was supposed to mean you were flirting, but it became a negative gesture sometime in the 80's. It also said that teen girls apparently use it more than boys, possibly because it's an evolutionary trait for women to show aggression without using violence. But it can lead to violence in some people, so I really don't know.

It is mostly used by a small group of males on WP.

Maybe its when you check someone out like look down on their bottom and back up in their eyes was considered flirting not looking away?

Eye rolling is a sign of disrespect. I haven't experienced it often, but I know that I have said something incredibly stupid when it does happen. It's a sign that I should keep quiet.

So...
I'm the only one here who really and truly cannot control it?

I can't control mine either. It just happens mid-conversation. I notice I do it a lot with my therapist too, I don't mean it rudely but it just happens, it's almost as if I know that people are expecting facial expressions from me but I don't know which one, so I just fill it with anything and it's often filled with an eye-roll. I also have to break eye contact constantly as it freaks me out, so I often look to the side of the person and then back at them, I'm not sure whether people interpret that as an eye-roll, though.