Another study claims we have less empathy

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People with autism show less empathy – which may not always be a bad thing

Well there might be some truth in it. Personally I have empathy for people going through things I've been through before, but if it's something I've never experienced I don't really feel much tbh.

Then again a lot of NTs I know claim to have a lot of empathy for refugees and various minority groups yet treat the people around them in real life horribly. So I think some are less empathetic than they make out.

Don't get it wrong because empathy isn't compassion.
Yesterday I asked a girl whether she could teach me empathy. Was a dumb question of course. Her answer was: "You have enough empathy." WTF! The only thing she knows about me is that guys like me because I'm into having fun. But there was a thing I didn't like on her yesterday. Her otherwise bright bluy eyes were nearly dead yesterday. If the eyes are a window to the soul what on earth did happen to her?

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Yes, sympathy, compassion and empathy are different beasts.

Personally I have no empathy towards anyone!! !! !! !!
at times not even my family members!!

Studies like this are a poor source from which to draw conclusions for many reasons. One of which is that terms are poorly defined. Aspergers people may not be deficient in "feeling" for those who have been wronged or suffer pain or tragic circumstances. However, we may be deficient in social reflexive "empathy" such as saying "Oh, I am so sorry you feel bad" when someone mentions they have a headache.

Here's the original journal article: Trait Autism is a Better Predictor of Empathy than Alexithym.

Note: It's not a study of people diagnosed with ASD. Rather, it looked at the statistical correlations amongst scores on three tests for a sample of people drawn from the general population. The tests were: (1) the 28-item Short Autism-Spectrum Quotient (AQS), (2) the 20-item Toronto Alexithymia Scale (TAS-20), and (3) the 31-item Questionnaire of Cognitive and Affective Empathy (QCAE).

I am so angry at neurotypicals claiming that I am cold and don't feel empathy towards them!
f**k them all! we were born this way and we can't help but being like that, if you don't like that I don't care!
as long as you don't start a problem with me we are good, but if you start telling with other people that I am cold and heartless and you want to isolate me, then this is not ok to isolate me only for the way I was born!!
I am going to become violent if the NT's scum don't understand this, forever enraged!

Empathy is a loaded term that means different things.

I used to struggle immensely with cognitive empathy, or rationalizing perspectives outside of your own. I have made vast improvements in the last couple years on this, due to a lot of forced, mass social interaction and introspection on my social failures. I've also researched a lot about human behavior and motivations, which helps.

I always have, and still do, struggle with affective empathy, which appears to be what is being described in the research, the whole "sharing and communicating feelings fluidly" thing. People confuse this with compassion when it's really more like "emotional resonance." An ASD person is likely to miss this resonance because of communication and other difficulties. I suspect this is what "masking" is covering up...that behavior that would normally manifest from experiencing typical levels of affective empathy (the fake smiles and gestures which indicate interest and enjoyment of interaction). I look at this as the "struggles to feel group humor or becomes withdrawn during complex social interaction" issue. Perhaps I am defining it poorly and someone can correct me, because I see a lot of ASD people vehemently defend their experience of affective empathy as though it is the same thing as compassion and expressing sympathy. Perhaps I am making the mistake in definition.

I have a lot of compassion for suffering, which is increased by my improvements in cognitive empathy. I can fathom, to a degree, how awful life circumstances can be for others, and I feel strongly about improving the life quality of all humans. It causes me severe distress sometimes thinking about it.

What about the NT people who are constantly bullying, dehumanizing, and generally treating us like garbage or some kind of tragedy? Tell me if *they* have any empathy!