Reactions to telling people you're on the spectrum?

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29 Jun 2019, 4:49 am

I'm talking about telling people when you got the diagnosis. For me there has been virtually no response. I think 'indifference' would be the right word to use.

I can understand my stepdaughter being quite matter of fact about it as she had said she thought I had autistic traits.
My brother gave a brief response but hasn't been in contact since then.
There's been no response from my father and sister.


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29 Jun 2019, 4:56 am

"I could have told you that",

"I don't think anyone is that surprised really"

" I think I'm probably autistic too"



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29 Jun 2019, 6:56 am

I'm sure they wouldn't be surprised. Most people suspect I'm different, anyway.



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29 Jun 2019, 8:26 am

Mostly neutral response.
Some surprise.
One, from favourite close friend:"Well, it explains some things you do and don't do."



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29 Jun 2019, 9:21 am

I told a friend of mine I might be autistic and she said that it didn't matter to her. I wonder if a man I might date, if I were ever that fortunate, would be so understanding.



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29 Jun 2019, 10:12 am

By far the most common response "you don't look autistic"

People in the field don't look surprised



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29 Jun 2019, 5:50 pm

A couple of my friends said "I can see that." The reaction I liked best was when my wife told her sister, "I could have told him that 20 years ago! I thought he knew!" My counselor (who I believe works with autistic children) said "I'm frustrated that I didn't see this."