dosh wrote:
I am about to start a degree course this September. Do you think it would be a good idea to tell each of the lecturers personally that I have AS? If so, what would be the best way of conveying this information as they are unlikely to know anything about the so-called "condition". I am anxious that they will listen but inside their heads they will simply label me a freak. In the past I have been mistreated by teachers in educational establishements -- it seemed to me that they had a scornful attitude towards me.
I actually do tell my teachers. The learning disability counsellor can do nothing for me, but teachers often seem to be very anxious at my college so far to hear things from a different perspective, and are often interested in what I have to say about other issues. I have been pulled aside and told it has been a pleasure to have me in the class because the other students tend to have the same answers for everything every semester, lol.
At the same time, a lot of the teachers like to be able to help students with stress type issues. When I'm stimming a LOT, they always ask me what is wrong and I cannot explain it. They generally give me a list of ways in an attempt to help, but they don't fully realize that those ways will help me. I also often get frustrated with those same teachers due to it, but I have to remind myself they are being very open-minded and are very interested all around.
Best example was my Orientation to College teacher. One morning I had 3 meltdowns before class-there was no way I was going in at that point. I e-mailed and explained and his response was "today the class talked for 2 hours about stress management (might have been useful to you)". I was kind of ticked off that he put his personal opinion in quotes like that, but upon looking at the homework assignment, I had an awesome opportunity to explain it all. The question was "What stresses you out and how do you cope?" A one paragraph answer quickly turned into a 3 page explanation. When I got my paper back, on the top it said "Well thought out answer/explanation! Excellent response!" He never tried to use that one with me again, lol, and seemed to listen better thereafter.
It is nice for them to know, because if they do and I am given a question based on personal experience or an opinion question, if there is a limitation as to why I cannot fully relate to what is being asked, or if I cannot put myself in another's shoes (i.e. if the question is "how would you feel in this situation?"), I can use it and talk about all of the reasons it is impossible to tell how I would react or feel, and in knowing, they welcome it rather than lecturing me that I am not applying myself enough or whatever they might say.
I just go up the first day if they seem approachable, or if I feel it is something they might need to know to understand why I respond to things the way that I do, and I tell them a little about it, and what I might specifically have trouble doing in their class if they ask. My reading teacher promptly ditched only having essay questions in which I'd have to be able to put myself in other's shoes. She had options so that I could choose to write about personal experience instead.
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Sorry for the long post...
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