Do you avoid looking at people you don't like?

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One of the questions on that Aspie quiz asked something about if you look at people you like a lot and look very little, or not at all, at people you don't like. My answer was yes but I never thought of this as an AS trait. I just thought this was common practice, AS or not.

I'm not sure if it is an AS trait, but I know I never look at people I don't like. It makes me sick to my stomach just to see their faces. Looking at them makes me feel vulnerable and that's probably why I don't do it. It might be the same for you. I was just diagnosed with AS last month, so I'm trying to find out everything I can about it. It probably is an AS trait, but I would think the same thing-that it just depends on the way you respond to things.

what reason is there to really look at them if you don't like them?

YES...i do avoid looking at people I don't like!!

I also avoid talking to them as much as humnaly possible....often times this eggs them on so that they will make increased attempts at interraction with me...

I feel the same.... but sometimes if I think they won't see me, I can't help but feel like staring and thinking of how I could put them in their place... all the many things I could say or do which never get said or done.

Obviously if I don't like someone, then i do not want to look at them--- i think this to be true of most people in general.
Sometimes, though, I secretly wish to have their picture on my wall... so i can throw darts at it.

I aviod looking at people I'm pissed-off at.

I tend to avoid looking at people that I don't like. Some of those people are the super fit, Beauty Queens who think that they're the prettiest in the world and that their farts don't smell like roses.

I know what you mean! Due to being hurt by specific types of women in the past, there's just a "look"... certain facial structures... hairstyles... facial expressions... that just make me not trust that person. Whether it's self-fulfilling prophecy (as my wife said) or these people really are the b...witches I suspect they are - true to form they start inflicting their damage.



The more "socialite" a person is, the more they can't stand me and I can't stand them. I guess it's because we're polar opposites. They need as many social connections as possible (as they need air and water!) and there I am, totally immune and insulated from the social connection she desperately needs to have. These are the people whose Facebook accounts have hundreds or even thousands of "friends". And if I'm cut off from them socially, it MUST mean I'm an enemy! [Dalek voice:] EX-TER-MIN-ATE! EX-TER-MIN-ATE!

...such bizarre thinking... it just doesn't follow any real logic! Pure instinct and emotion.

I try to tune out the voices of people I do not like, especially this freshman at school who is annoying the hell out of me.
As for other people, I do look at them, even if I don't like them.

Yeah, it sounds common enough to not be indicative of neurological status. That which tastes bad-most folks would reflexively spit out, figure it's the same with other perceptual systems (if it sounds bad, cover one's ears, etc.). Realize that dislike of a person is more complex than physical reactions, but it causes emotional states which guide one's responses of either approach or avoid (communication with or proximity to) other human.

It's one thing to need to keep eye on 'enemy' (humans enact predator & prey patterns similar to animals) & make sure one isn't being caught by surprise. Beyond that monitoring function, I try to avoid perceiving that which I dislike-don't want my consciousness invaded & my senses irritated.

However, there are times when I can't/won't look at someone & it's not result of my not liking who or what's in front of me-I have multiple reasons for how I react, at different points of external confrontation and/or internal conflict.

yes! yes! Yes!

I would hate to be my enemy

I worked with someone that really could not have cared any less for me and was constantly trying to cause conflict. I, being very me, was always upfront and honest with our supervisor, so she always looked like a lunatic when going to management about the things that she hated about me. She was very "Gold" (anyone ever done true colours workshops???) and I, well, I am very "green"/AS.

We were direct coworkers and shared the same office space, but I have to admit, I am not sure I could have stuck it out as long as she did. I did not look at this poor gal for about, uhm...a year or more. I did not even say 2 words to her and I worked beneath her!

I am returning to work tomorrow, after a year long maternity leave and well, she resigned last week!! ! (what does that say??!?! !)


***Colour meanings below:

Gold:

Gold is the body's natural perceptions. It represents a need to be responsible, to fulfill duties and obligations, to organize and structure our life and that of others. Those with Gold as a Primary Color value being practical and sensible. They believe that people should earn their way in life through work and service to others.

Gold reflects a need to belong through carrying a share of the load in all areas of living. It represents stability, maintenance of the culture and the organization, efficiency, and dependability. It embraces the concepts of home and family with fierce loyalty and faithfulness.

& Green is said to:

Green expresses itself psychologically as human will in operation: as persistence and determination. Green is an expression of firmness and consistency. Its strength can lead to a resistance to change if it is not proven that the change will work or is warranted. Those with Green as a Primary Color value their intellect and capabilities above all else. Comfort in these areas creates a sense of personal security and self-esteem.

Green characteristics seek to increase the certainty of their own values through being assertive and requiring differences from others in intellectual areas. They are rarely settled in their countenance, since they depend upon information rather than feelings to create a sense of well-being. Green expresses the grounding of theory and data in its practical applications and creative constructs.

lol for me, I tend to not look at anyone(strangers) and only can look at people i know for a very short time. if i see someone i dont know i turn around and go the opposite direction

I tend not to look at people I don't like, because I feel it'd be awkward if I somehow gave them the idea I wanted to enter conversation with them. Also, sometimes there are certain people for whatever reason, you feel sorry for. I don't look at them, because I feel they've had enough people staring at them all their lives, they'd probaly appreciate someone just going about their buisness like they were any ordinary person.

I don't look at anyone; I still see everyone.