What do you do when you go to a party?

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The few times I have been required to go to parties (job related parties) I just sit in a corner and try to appear busy and also like I am enjoying the party.

What do you do when you find yourself in a similar situation?

Dance mostly. But if I find the music inexcusably poor, I leave. Nothing worse than hearing LOUD music you loathe for HOURS. I spare myself and leave early in that case. There have been a few occasions where I just flatout can get down with the beats (mainly 80's pop rock and whatnot).

I either get scared and leave or I find someone I can talk to the whole time or I just end up following my boyfriend around. I know that the last option is socially unacceptable, but I guess it's better than leaving right away.

Eat the food and drink. I don't care too much for whatever else other people may be doing, so long as they're not about to drag me onto the dance floor or get me to be as drunk as they are. If I don't know the people there too well, I probably won't be talking to them. In fact, chances are, I'm most likely the person sitting away from the attention, with a math textbook, or some pencils and paper, drawing, or playing a handheld console game.

If I were to go to a party right now, I'd just go up to people who were talking about something I knew about and join their conversation. I'd know that I would never have to see those people again if I didn't want to, and that I could leave any time, and if I screwed up, what would they do, pull out a gun and shoot me?

I went to a party once, got bored so yelled out "I LIKE TO KILL N1GG3R5" then started pacing around yelling things like that, then some mulatto kid came up to me and asked if I wanted to get knocked, and I replied: "Dude, I am half black too!" (I am). He walked out of the party. Everyone was like whoa this guy is extreme. The only people that laughed were my two friends that were with me, some others seemed like they wanted to laugh but didn't want to seem like dicks to everyone else. It was fun.

I went to another party, I use to jam with the people who ran it, and one of them spread a rumour at the party that I had quit guitar, so me and my friend stole a lot of their weed then left.

I flat out refuse to do parties any more. I tell people (friends, co-workers, anybody else) that I have serious psychological issues with parties; they cause me stress, pain and damage. I'm very explicit about the effects parties have on me, such that I leave little room for the other person to think I don't want to go to their party, or what not. My son's mom used to arrange elaborate surprise parties for my birthday, up until a few years ago, where I absolutely forbade any more of such things (it took a while to convince her that parties really are torture for me, not that I was just expressing some false humility and all that. )

Back when I was not bold enough to put my foot down, I'd typically do the Barclay; end up alone in the corner, trying to look comfortable examining a potted plant.

Never again.

The next party I'm going to attend will be the wake for my own funeral. I mean it.

Good fortune,

-Icarus is a party pooper...

I pass out in the dog bed.

I usually try to become involved in people's conversations, fail at that and then sit in a corner and try to look like I want to be there.

Don't go to many nowadays but used to get incredibly drunk.

I go and sit by myself with a book or a game in my hand. I also listen to the music too they play but I hate it when they play the ones I don't like.

I head straight for the keg and hang around there and drink as a camaflouge. I usually get completely smashed unless I leave quickly, which I do when there's not enough people at the party because when that happens there's too much pressure to be social and it's harder to be camaflouged.

If I'm on my own, I prefer to stand/sit around somewhere out of the way and help myself to the party food occasionally; If I'm with someone, I'll usually just hang around them not contributing much to their conversations with other people until they require my presence to be elsewhere, which I would then revert to the first strategy.

I never, ever go to parties that involve alcohol or abnormal lighting (dimmed, flashing, etc). Making excuses to avoid attending them is almost fun!

I wont go to large gatherings or at least have not went to one in many years. However, I do go to smaller gatherings like a UFC party across town where everyone who attends are friends, typically i know in advance and prep for it, I get in introduce myself to those who may not know me, tho usually everyone does, get comfy in a chair (i never sit on a couch, i need my own personal space) ill grab a beer and just relax, talk a bit and watch TV. In the past I have had to go to larger parties like weddings or B-days or family stuff, when this occures I dont chill out and drink a beer, I have to mingle but usually only do for a short period of time, i kick back, let some come to me and tell me whatever about themselfs, sometimes its good to be quiet and just listen to people you have not seen in a while, hear about their lives and acomplishments, ill talk breifly about mine and then the mingling will continue. I do this for a bit, then when its time to eat i break, sit quietly and eat my food for a while, maby even afterwards go for a walk to chill out alone for a few mins, then go back in and mingle. Its nice to see everyone (typically family) i dont fair as well with a party full of people I dont know and often leave early. Parties with lots of people/ socialization are tiring and after a while i get exausted from it, ill sleep for a while after that.

Indeed I dont attend many parties as it is, I avoid whenever possible large gatherings (except family stuff) it has been a few years since I have needed to be at a large scale gathering.

I was at one today.
It was my best friend's birthday, and there were a lot of people there I didn't know.
I tried not to stray from my friends, but like sometimes when they were scattered or busy somewhere, I would stand against a wall and look at the ground and s**t.
All the people being there definitely made me uncomfortable, but it wouldn't've been as bad if not for something else that was there which made me really nervous and awkward.

I was just going to start a similar thread, because I'm going to a Halloween party this week and I'm nervous about it. I haven't been to a party in over a year.

Usually I stick close to my friends and try to look like I'm enjoying myself. But parties to me are sensory overload, and I hate having to shout to talk to people. I don't quite understand the point: if you can't hear anyone over the (often lousy) music, then what is the point of being at a party to socialize? Maybe it would help if I was more comfortable dancing in public, or drinking...

After a party and the subsequent good night's sleep, I feel amazing that a.) I did it, and b.) I don't have to do it again for a long time.