Feeling the feelings of others...

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Does anyone else take on the feelings of others, and take them quite personally? I feel this may be a side effect of not being able to do it right myself, so try to picture myself in someone else's shoes.

Maybe if I can picture how this person may react, and I get it right, then I am learning the right things.

People then wonder why I take something so personally when it is not happening to me.

If it makes any difference I have to know and at the very least like the person.

Of course it may be me...

The particular scenario is this.

My friend, who is one of my few go-tos, has been feeling ill all the time that I have known her, and since she moved in to the apaartment above the local pub. She went away on holiday recently, and the landlord stayed in the flat to look after her dogs. He said he felt ill as well. They discovered a gas leak, which explained it. That made me really angry.

What has made it worse is that it is now three weeks since they found out, and haven't fixed it. I'm taking it worse than my friend is, right now, but seeing as the leak has been there for the last two years, I feel justified somewhat. Getting angry at the landlords is impossible for me due to my social inability to express the feelings I have to the person concerned. Sadly, her financial staus doesn't permit her getting out or anything, she has to sit and wait for the plumber to come and fix it. And plumbers are busy people.

Everyone I mention it to (being the aspie type I am, it can often become the first thing I say, rather than hello) seem to go, "oh, thats really bad", and don't seem to take it as seriously as me.

It. Is. Frustrating...

That is a bad situation You're right about caring about it. Not to take this to too much of a dramatic direction but that writing that ending "Then they came for me and there was no one left to speak out" is true. I wish that more people would speak out. People resent having their boats rocked but sometimes it's the right thing. A hard thing to do but the right thing.

i cant do it. i might feel sorry for awile but it always wears off!