Is this cause of aspergers?

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hey

I don't really have any sex type feelings. Kissing kind of digusts me - why would I want someone elses' spit in my mouth? Is this part of my aspergers or do I have some other problem?

I'm really sick of feeling like a freak. I just don't understand at all why everyone else is so obsessed.

Do you feel like you’re going to be physically sick from kissing or thinking about kissing, as it's to do with something else, can't remember the name of it... Thinking of all the germs so on kind of thing in exchanging fluids with them...


I did have once a girl a long time ago that thought kissing was bad & disgusting, I soon changed her mind in a second. Have you ever kissed anyone yet?

Yes I know it says male...

How old are you? You may just not have the same types of feelings as your peers.

I'd say it's not too unusual, but I wouldn't say it's caused by AS.

Welcome to WP!

You don't get spit in your mouth unless they spit in it.

you usually have to pay extra for spit!

Yep, it sounds gross.... sometimes it is...

Different girls will kiss differently, so don't get put off by the idea.

Also - it depends on your age.

If you start off just brushing your lips on her cheeks, lips etc, it should come naturally and feel fine.

You may have a little OCD goin' on, which is a common co-morbid with AS. Nothin' to worry about.

This is both disgusting and hilarious



Yes, I've kissed a few people. It didn't do anything for me. I felt vaguely anxious and completely detatched from the situation. Even though I could feel it (and you do get spit in your mouth, if there tongue is in your mouth there spit is in your mouth and it's gross) it was sort of like I was just watching and someone else was in control.



I do have a few compulsive tendancies but nothing too serious. What does this have to do with it?

I think he means that you might have a bit of a problem with "germs".

I had a horrific germ problem when I was little that cost me a lot of friends because I was too scared to share anything.

It might have to do with being oversensitive to touch. I'm the same way, and I'm also asexual.

You might be asexual. If you are, there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not asexual, but sex has never been very important to me either.

As someone mentioned, it might be sensory sensitivity. I only kissed my ex-boyfriend a few times because I couldn't stand how cool his spit was (temperature-wise). I guess that sounds weird, but it really bothered me. I didn't enjoy the kisses either, and I've never kissed anyone else (with tongue at least), so I don't know if that experience is typical, or if his spit was just weird.

Completely detatched...but only vaguely anxious

Don't underestimate the power of anxiety.It is a serious problem that can devastate
any person's life,so much more so for Aspies.
One of the problems is you can be completely unaware of the effects,
only second-guessing yourself about your behaviour after the event.
Does that sound familiar?
Generalised Anxiety Disorder,I have been informed,is pretty much a universal complaint
across the autism spectrum.It is both paralysing & debilitating.

How old are you?
Since you stated the level of intimacy reached the tongue-kissing stage,I'm assuming
you're heterosexual & actively attracted to females...& young
So then there's fear of intimacy,fear of commitment,fear of the unknown -
all the 'stumbling around in the dark' problems of youth.
Why did you put yourself in that situation ?
Peer-pressure?Faking normal?Drunk at a party?
It takes two to tango.

Hmm...Diagnosis: Have Aspergers - Undiagnosed
Are you aware of our 'black & white' thinking dilemma?

What you are describing says your asexual (www.asexuality.org). while many there do have aspergers, many also do not

I'm young but I'm not actively attracted to females, or sometimes I am but not sexually, so I can't be sure if I'm heterosexual or not. I thought I might be gay for a while but I'm not attracted to guys either. Asexual seems like the right label as far as I can tell (I looked it up) and it would fit with aspergers but I'm not sure where to go from here.

What is the black and white thinking dilemma?

ohh i hate kissing too, its sensory for me, luckily my nt bf appreciates the little stuff like an occasional hug is like a french kiss to him haha, because i'm either too dominitrix or however u spell it, or extremely unaffectionate.