Aspies and ridiculous situations

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I'm an expert at getting into impossibly ridiculous situations with people. Relationship situations that as far as I know, don't happen to other people who "get it" without needing explicit explanations.

Does this happen to you? If what I mean is not clear, I'll give examples.

I think ridiculous situations is very much in the kingdom of aspie.

yes..examples please

i would love an example please

I would be friends with an example, and see how things go from there.

omg, it's so hard to explain... I'll try...

Because I don't "get it" unless it's explained to me directly, I do ridiculous things that people don't know how to get out of, and the relationship becomes ridiculous.

Example:

I was offered a marriage "agreement". It wasn't really marriage in the whole sense of the word, but a convenient (UNSPOKEN BUT VERY CLEARLY IMPLIED) agreement whereby I had to pay a certain price to get a certain something through the marriage. Only I didn't "get it", the fact that I was being offered an "agreement" instead of a real marriage life, so a few days after the wedding I had to ask for a divorce. Everyone felt awkward about it, because everyone assumed I had understood what I was getting into. I didn't! So a few days after the wedding we had to tell everyone that we were getting divorced.

Another example of ridiculous situations caused by my aspiness: I wrote my boss a long email saying how much I appreciated working with him (when he was leaving the job) and how much I'd miss him, and I copied his boss and our whole team. Then a few days later I (inadvertedly, of course), passed him over in an important issue, he threatened to fire me, and we kind of became ""enemies"". Everyone was celebrating the good relationship between us when we were hating each other already ! !! !! !!

I've gotten myself into ridiculous situations in the past because I've trusted people who clearly could not be trusted, who did things with ulterior motives. That's what was implied. I've seriously reached a point where I'm too tired to care about all the ridiculous situations I've gotten myself into. I have more important issues to tend to now. It's all for the best.

Important lesson learned.

I made a girl break down because I didn't want to be physical with her after we had been dating for about 2 weeks. I don't feel like telling the whole story but it ended really badly. She asked me "Did I turn you gay?". It was really hard, and akward trying explain that I just wasn't into her on an emotional level.

Is it nts or just women in general that are crazy like that?

erm...anyone else have something to share?