NT's afraid of truth?

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Have you guys ever tried talking with an NT person and telling them something very bluntly that is a fact or the truth and they just don't seem to want to see it or hear it? What re they so afraid of? This happens to me all the time, I don't know what it is, but they always seem to be afraid or don't want to see things for exactly the way they are................Whatare they so afraid of, and why do they do this?

Depends what this 'truth' is. Often it is wise to stay quiet about things, and not risk negative consequences for yourself. Other times people don't want to hear because it clashes with some strongly held belief of theirs. Other times you may be mentioning something truthful, but at an inappropriate time. All these are true with Aspies just aswell as NT's i've found....

I have heard that the reason people don't like to see the truth about things is becasue that means that have to then make a desicision about it......but if you ignore the truth then you don't have to make a desicision about anything.

Would you, please, provide some specific examples? Are you talking about questions of religion, politics, or what?

I've talked with many people with aspergers and they've done the same thing so maybe its not just NTs. Sometimes I even do it!! But I usually apologize if I do. Maybe everyone does it at some point.

I don't know that it is all NTs. I have an NT friend that handles the blunt truth fine but a husband and mother (NT) that can't handle it. They want to hide from things and hope they will go away or that someone else will resolve the issue. They don't really care what happens around them as long as they don't have to make the decisions. This is because they don't like responsibility so they do not want to make the decisions and have the responsibility for the results.

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Thank you. Yes, I have to admit I'm this way sometimes. Part of it is just that a lot of the time, it'll be something I already know that's already bugging me enough without this person getting on my case about it.

I try to realize when this is happening to me, but I can't decipher when it's going on in another. Means I may irritate someone with what I say because I can't understand why they aren't making sense. I'm both an excessive truth-teller and a selective truth-avoider. Doesn't feel under my control, just luck-whether my response will be adequate to the situation. Knowing more & being aware is often of use, yet for some other concern being confronted/reminded is counterproductive to making it through. Determining what's called for when the right answer is ever-shifting exhausts my mind.

People fear the truth.

Its like the saying "If voting changed anything, they'd make it illigal."