Trying to understand the difference

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Ok, here’s the situation:

Monday: You eat dinner with your husband, he has to work on a map for flying but he decides to put it off to watch TV with you for awhile. After 2 hours of TV he goes back to work on his flight map.

Wednesday: You come home your husband is working on his flight map, you make dinner, and after you’re done eating your husband goes back to working on his map.

I don’t understand why he did not do the same thing as Monday and choose to watch TV with me. He says because he wants to get his work done, and it’s a different day. But for some reason this is so hard forme to understand. And becasue I did not understand, it caused an arguement. What would have caused him to put me first on Monday, but not on Wensday?


How can I get past things like this? Why is it so hard to understand, I know its a different day, but what can I do to keep from getting stuck? Any advise?

You wanted to stick to the routine and he had a change of plans. Maybe he had an idea that he had to hurry up and get written down, maybe their was something abot it that was time critical, mabe he was frustratesd with working on it and wanted to hurrry up and get it over with, there's countless scenarios of why he might have chose to put the flight map first. It all sounds like a [mutual] communication breakdown to me.

Maybe there was something decent on TV on Monday?

I think that Sanityisoverrated has been absent most ofthe time you've been here, Dej. So FYI, he never takes anything seriously.

Dej, you have Aspergers, so you like to stick to a routine more than the average person. If you husband is NT, he is more likely to not follow the same exact rountine every day.

There isn't enough information available to give a better answer. I don't know what his work entails or what is going on in his mind.

To me, him not watching TV one day doesn't seem like an issue.

People want to do different things sometimes.

Is there a deadline for his flightmap thingy?

Well he has to map our his flight before he flies, usually he is flying the very next day.

On some days procrastination is harder to fight.

I find this and I end up putting work off. Other days I get it done right away. It depends on my energy level for what I'm doing. It perhaps is similar for your husband?

Maybe the deadline was approaching and he had to get it done right away on wednesday

Take things from his perspective, why is he doing this?
I say it is because he wants to work and finish it.

An honost conversion will work if your not demanding. There are many ways of getting around little things without getting into a heated arguement.
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