Difficulty that i experienced.

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Hello! I would like to share with you my difficulties in real life, it makes me depressed so i have to take meds. Please give me your feedback.

First of all, i LOVE pictures[i] i can look at a picture of hours, my ex-girlfriend told me that i was a little kid because of that.
I dont have many friends. When i go out to the supermarket or anywhere else, i get fight with 'normal people', i dont know why they act this way. I cant see if people are joking or is serious, i cant understand expression or the look of a person, i cant understand the world at all, and i feel very lonely . I'm such in pain because i hate to be 'un-normal', i would like to be like other person who suceed in life, i dont understand person's behavior like (sex, serious discussion). This world make me crazy, i cant figure it out the goal in life, why im here, what i have to do, i cant work because i need ALWAYS someone near me to say what to do, i cant function hardly alone. This sucks! What are your experience as being asperger?

Thank You!
Have a good night!
CYa!

You know what helped me was reading Never Cry Wolf by Farley Mowat. It describes him learning social rules of wolves in the wild by observation, and even learning to participate. I read it in junior high school and it really helped me in dealing with the peculiar creatures surrounding me.

For heaven's sake, don't try to be normal. You can learn to employ or avoid behaviors that lead to negative interactions with people without having to adopt them as your own. It took me years to decide that I'm weird, so what? If people have a problem with it, it's their problem, not mine.

It's a good idea to develop a repertoire of stock phrases and responses to use so you don't have to stop and think about it. It's amazing how many social interactions are mostly stock phrases and meaningless.

Keep in mind, most people don't have bad intentions, and the ones that do will be so disappointed if you can act like you don't know. So act as if everyone is OK. If you can't tell, that's the safest mode. If you are wondering if a girl is interested in you, be pleasant and friendly but DO NOT start anything. Wait for her to make the first obvious move. She may not, even if she is interested, but this way you will know for sure before you goof up big time. That's actually good for anyone who is not sure about the cues and customs.

Another thing to keep in mind is that most people don't really care about you. Not in a bad way, most people you come across will barely notice you. This means if it seems someone is trying to mess you up, unless you know them it's extremely unlikely. They are most likely interfering with you by accident.

Give yourself some more time. Aspies are late in maturing compared to the other species, so expectations need to be adjusted accordingly.

I love pictures too. I can be mesmerized by certain pictures for very long periods of time.

Go back to your cave and never socialize again, you're obviously being ret*d in public if they latch out at you.

Hey! Do you have a problem, why are you talking like that to me, dont be mean,
you are such a bad person..

remind that ! !!