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hello all,
im wondering -- what do you do or use to get what you need out of life in a NT world? what are the secret remedies or quirky things that you do in order to lessen certain NT pressures? i.e. "noisy" neighbors, the expectation to socialise more than you'd like, "indirect" speech, changes of plans, etc.
and also, how do you get what you need from other people without launching into a lengthy explanation as to why they should believe that you really do need it?
thank you!

^^ Oh dear, I believe I am often blessed by a panic attack in those situations.^^ My sister no longer asks me to socialise a greater amount, as I believe she is blessed with understanding. However, my parents often state I should scialise a greater amount. ^^ In that case, I often but say I am happy not doing so, and they often leave qiuckly, as they state they wish not to enter another lengthy debate.

wah!! it seems that nobody likes my topic.

I do tend to stock up on supplies, as if the apocalypse were coming.

Not really sure.

Hi, daysleeper-

If you really are a day sleeper, I can relate. I worked the overnight shift for a few years, and it was great. Few co-workers, few bosses bugging me, quiet. A very nice job. If you don't work overnights, I can recommend it for a peaceful work life. Luckily there is both a grocery store and a pharmacy in my town that are open all night, so I could do my errands at 4am on a night off and hardly ever have to deal with crowds and such.

I used to use black sheer curtains to block out the light but not the summer breezes during the day when I needed to sleep, and I use a white noise machine (actually, it's an old humidifier with no water in it so the machine makes a whirring noise - those white noise machines cost a bundle!) to drown out the neighbors' noise.

As far as socializing goes, I can understand that, too. I think being the "strong, silent type" is more acceptable for men than for us women. There seems to be a greater demand for us to connect with other women who require a lot of personal information from us, small talk, etc. I usually come to be so despised at my jobs that nobody talks to me after awhile, but that's not a coping strategy, just an ugly reality. Of course, small talk may be equally required of men and I just don't see it

Indirect speech? If I don't get someone's meaning (or pretend I don't because I don't know how to respond, like when somebody hints that they want me to do their work for them and I'm not sure if they have the authority to delegate their work to me or not) they either speak more bluntly or they assume I'm being difficult and start to despise me for not 'helping' them.

As far as getting what I need from other people, it's my nature to assume if I don't get it from the first person I ask then I'll get it some other way, so I'm not desperate. I normally just ask for what I want in the straightforward aspie way and am prepared to take 'no' for an answer. Maybe I've just been lucky, but so far that's worked out.

I hope some of this long-winded post helps you think of some strategies that will work for you.

Earlplugs and blackout curtains for sleeping.

I find it very hard to get what I need or want from people, you have to have social charm for that.