Do aspies and children typically get along?

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From what I have observed, children are typically facinated by me due to my odd behaviour, and because I don't overwhelm them with the agressive attention that adults usually give to children. They feel safer around me, so they start attempting to get my attention.

Me on the other hand, while I don't have the patience to play with children for very long, for some reason I know how children think, and I know how to handle them better than the average NT. I know when to give them space when they need it. Consequently, we get along pretty well.

Is this typical of a relationship between aspies and children?

YES

I can't say if it's typical. I can tell you that it wasn't that way with my exhusband who was Asperger's. Our own children were afraid of him much of the time, and I never saw other children attracted to him at all. He had little patience with children. Probably this is a pleasant aspect of your own personality, and that is great.

Some traits such as hypersensitivity to noise or touch can get in the way with children. These traits are typical for many with AS though not for all.

But even if you have those traits (like I do too), it doesn't mean children will definitely negatively affect you or that you cannot handle children perfectly fine. The rest of your personality, knowledge, copying abilities, rest of your ASD, your environment and so on also influence your relationships with kids.

It's not solely these AS traits or others of your AS traits that determine whether or not you get along with children.

I work with kids, so yeah... goes surprisingly well.

I think you might be on ta somthin there.

I'm an apsie and I love kids.

I guess I'm either the contradiction or the exception...

It depends on the person.

I love children. Most children, especially babies and very small children, respond very well to me.

I love being around kids, but I don't have the energy for it most days.

In my case yes, in the shop where I work I seem to connect well with children and awully with people of my age or older. I think it's just a matter of emotional age, and looking at my Aspie mom I think it won't change. I like it.

My Aspie friend at school spends a lot of time with his best friend who is about 11 or so.

I'm terrible with children. Hell, I was terrible with children when I was a child and that hasn't changed. I just can't relate or connect with them and never know what to say to them. They're also too unpredictable...

Although my five year old cousin likes me since she can drag me around the place, steal my glasses and beat me up. I don't know what the hell to do with kids.

the kids in the neighbourhood like me a lot. they tell me.
my son is 6 and his friends like me and i like them.

i prefer them to the parents.

i am the weird mum who has tattoos and basically lets them do anything.....
except if they come near my studio or try to disturb me there - they get a total earbashing---

they know this and they are all good about it.
don't disturb her when she is doing her thing......

Up to the age of about 9, kids think I'm a magical person like in Harry Potter and can't get enough of me. When they're older they realise I'm probably just some strange lady.

Actually the kids in the neighborhood like me too oddly enough since I don't care for kids that much.
When I first moved in they asked me out to play and I went lol but then their parents said they cant play with me anymore since I'm an adult.

Hahaha

depends. I'm always surprised my granddaughter loves me, but that's probably because I let her play on the computer. At 2, she knows the mouse, the escape key, and the menu keys...I'm probably stunting her childhood...

The other 2-year-old has developmental (mental..and I have no diagnosis) problems; she will go for days without eating, until she looked anemic. She has a screech that could peel paint off the walls, which even the NTs around me find excruciating.