Implying, do you understand it

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It's something I've always had a problem with, I've gotten better recently by I could never tell when people are implying something.

I think I'm completely opposite, I always think people are implying things when usually they aren't! lol

I get it when I read it.

What exactly are you implying here?

Sometimes. Other times I have troubles with it. I can't figure out what the person is trying to imply. Then other times I wonder if someone is implying this or that because I have read too much online.

I have a hard time if people are not direct, but also tend to read too much into what others say sometimes.

>implying people are implying things

i understand what is being implied; assumong i realize something is being implied.
however, a large portion of my humour indeed relies on finding somethign that could be implied with the spoken sentance, and responding to that as if it truely was implied; this either causes laughter trough humour, or it makes me the first to realize what has been indeed implied, without me even noticing it

I can do it much more easily with written text. For example, I've got no trouble interpreting poetry at a college level (though no better; I'll never make a literature expert).

It takes thought, though. When you look at the subtext in writing, what you're doing is looking at all the words and their denotative meanings, collecting all the things those words link to, and looking at where those connections are strongest. It's not a laborious process with lots of list-making; it's more of a pattern-recognition task. I can do it, but it may be a bit slower for me than for most people, so it's easier for me when the words are in writing.

People actually assume I AM the one implying things, when I'm just bluntly stating something, as if my statements were indirect requests.

I don't. If I try to figure out what people are implying without saying, I'm often wrong, and my wrong guesses generally cause more problems than simply ignoring everything other than what's explicitly stated. Trying to figure out what people think I'm implying is even worse. I prefer when people speak simply to me, and I often deliberately feign idiocy just to make my life easier, when it's not necessary for people to actually take me seriously.

The exception is with people I know very well. People I'm very familiar with, like family, I learn to read very well. I can often read their patterns so well I can anticipate their behavior as well as they can themselves. I also can get implications in written works of fiction, likely due to the slower speed of reading vs. conversation. If I have time to analyze, I can figure it out intellectually. I'm probably quite slow at it vs. others, but my analysis is probably no less insightful, and my collegiate humanities grades would seem to bear that out.

I get it. I get Sarcasm as well, Irony most of the time.

I found TV shows with somewhat over-the-top performance (like Friends or How I met your mother) and drama class great tools to recognize these things.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I can get super obscure references, which is really fun, but I miss a lot of things or misread others. I'm wrong a lot.

When we're speaking about personal things and the person is not really agreeing or trying to persuade me without saying it out loud, that I'm not really right, I tend to pick up on it pretty easily.
Now a big problem I have is this one: speaking with someone who is not my friend but DEFINITELY on my side , when I'm in an argument with a third person who is absent, and the person I'm speaking to tries to imply things about that other person without actually having to say it (maybe in case I would repeat it? or anyone could overhear and judge them for speaking ill of an absent person?) that, I struggle very hard with. I'm speaking to someone and he tries to imply that I shouldn't trust so and so, without saying it: I realize it 3 days later. People who don't want to look like they're getting involved is the worst .....

Usually more so in written text.

I can DETECT it irl most o the time, but interpreting it is a different story.

I don't have trouble identifying someone's tone but am never totally sure if they mean what I think they do and sometimes they don't.

I only ask if it's really important for me to clarify,