better at understanding when on the outside, looking in?

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I have friends who call me and ask for advice on relationships, sometimes. They tell me I'm usually right, and my advice is always very good. I can also predict when someone's about to get broken up with. Now all of this confuses me because I've never been able to make a relationship last for more than 2 months. I'm not surprised I can predict when someone is about to be broken up with, because I've been there so many times. (I've been the one to break up with the other person sometimes though) Anyways, I was wondering if others have this phenomenon happen to you? Are you really good at analyzing social situations when you're not in them?

absolutely, my friends all ask me for advice on things also. I can always give good advice for the situation they are in. However when it's me, I have no idea what to do.

I am the same. I think it's always easier because since you're not in the relationship, your perspective is not clouded by emotion.

I used to have friends ask me for that type of advice, all the time.

Yes. Outside perspective person here.

Indeed.

Starting with the time - at a very messed up point in my life - when a friend asked for and got considered advice from me on whether to marry this guy - a year after I asked her to marry me.

Last I heard they were still well married.

IMHO, it's always easier to see things and make the right call when you are in the role of an independent observer. You see things that someone in the event simply can't see.