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I'm at the end of my teather with this, I'm 16, and last night I met an old friend from my infant and primary school, she was eay-going, we had a laugh and talked about the other pupils etc. and then we met up with some of her friends and I knew it would go downhill from there...
It's hard for me to be myself around others but I have a kind of confidence front with people that I'm nervous around (this is most probably where ADHD comes in), it's either being shy or being a silly prat bt it seems no matter how I am I get ridiculed and they can see through it and just see my low confidence, it went ok at first but I knew I didnt have a connection with any of them and later on after hanging out for a while one of them made comments and laugh with his other friend, I really do not understand why this always happens, it's like there's always someone in a group of people that are willing to be able to seek out my low confidence and crush me (not literally).
It makes me despise myself and it was like this at school, I think people probably find it pathetic when I act like that and even more so that I have confidence from being like that, I thought I was a nice guy, I care for others and want to volunteer in Africa and I'm always up for helping at charities etc.
Am I being taken advantage of? Do nice guys finish last?
I don't know if I deserve it, I know I can be arrogant and unpredicable and my persona ccan change depending on my mood, I even talk differently but I just see that as expressing myself.
Does anyone else have this problem?
I don't want to sound like a typcal hormonal teenager but I feel as though I'm unwanted in this world, I feel like just an extra, not needed and it's thoughts like this that make me feel empty and I'm scared because I don't feel as though I make an impact with people or in this world infact.
I'm not paranoid or exxagerating, and I'm not sure what else to say, thanks for your patience and I anted t know if others felt this way, thanks

I feel for you, I really do. The teen years are really, really hard. Do you deserve to be ridiculed? Absolutely not. You have so much potential that you have yet to tap into. It will all fall into place eventually. It's cool that you and the girl get along well. Is it possible next time to end things a little more quickly before you're in a situation that makes you doubt yourself so much? Like you hang out with the girl, her friends show up, you hang for a bit and then you leave? I find that if I can get out of the situation before it gets bad, then I feel better about myself and I can learn more from it because there was more positive than negative that I can refer back to. Not sure if that makes sense.

I'm in my 30's now and you couldn't pay me enough money to go back through my teen years. It's tough.

Thanks for your response, I would just leave before my gut feelng tells me it would go downhill but i'd think they'd not like me for it and I don't like people disliking me before they know me if that makes sence.
I gave it a chance anyway, I probably expect too much of myself or something, I just wish these other teens would get off my f*****g back!
Sorry, I don't like to swear but it just happens time and time again.
And yeah teen years are tough! Most adults say that hehe.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

Along the same lines of what CelticGoddess suggested, I'd say something very casual like, "Oh hey. I wish I could stay longer, but I promised (insert someone else here) I'd do this (something, like an errand). I better go now before I forget. Nice to meet you guys." Try to make a quick exit after that.

Good luck, jmfoster.

good luck with it