Turning 21 on Saturday

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I will be turning 21 on Saturday and I have no plans for any birthday party or to hang out with friends or anything like that. I never really have for quite a while, I remember having parties when I was like in elementary school and maybe some in middle school but not much after that.

Sure my family and grandparents will celebrate it and make a special dinner and cake or take me out to eat at some restaurant or something like that. They will probably encourage me to order some kind of alcoholic beverage since I'll be turning 21 but I don't really care, I doubt I will be in the mood for it then. It would probably be wine because my family members are big wine drinkers though not that it matters.

I guess most people my age would probably be looking forward to it but not I. I almost feel like I'm not ready to turn 21 yet though I can't possibly see how that would make any sense.

I never really drank anything alcoholic before except maybe a glass of wine every once in a blue moon but that was it. I guess I'm kind of afraid to really drink much of anything because of how it might make me act or something. What if it made me act like some kind of a ret*d or something, I don't want that therefore I guess I really don't want to drink much of anything ever.

For example what if I'm at a bar someplace with some friends in a social situation and it's hard enough being an aspie and I'd have to think a little more than the average person about what was going on so I could at least try and make myself fit in socially with the situation. If I was drinking anything then too it might make that nearly impossible and make me come across as a weird strange person that no one would want to have anything to do with. Besides I don't want to spend away my money at bars, I like to save money as much as possible and whenever and wherever possible though I do know that sometimes it is good to not always buy the cheapest thing depending on what it is and all that.

It is a social change more than anything you are meant to experience internally. It is an arbitrary number and 17 or 18 is perhaps more significant with respect to ones social roles.

Cool!! !

I turned 21 in 44 days from now.

I totally hear you on that. I'm turning 21 in April and not looking forward to it for the same reasons. There's no one I really feel comfortable with enough to let myself go to even be able to figure out what kind of affect alcohol has on me.

Don't do anything if you don't wish. I've not organised anything in the past two years 'cause I have little faith in my ability in it, and know that everyone will be expecting it to be an opportunity to put strain on their livers.

My 21st is on the 12th February and I'll be spending it much the same as you. Dinner with close family, only minus the drinks.

In some ways I feel bad that I won't be 'celebrating' it like most other people. Then again, I don't really want that. I suppose I feel sad that I have no desire to party, when other people get excited and have fun, I'm indifferent to that sort of thing. I guess I feel that I'm missing out on something.

But, don't let anyone make you feel like you need to drink just because it's the done thing.

Didn't do anything special for my 21. Though I have been drinking fairly regularly since then, which I enjoy.

Happy Birthday

I think a lot of people feel they have to live upto public expectation in regards to 21sts.. Just do what makes you feel comfortable, not what other people expect.

I remember turning 21. I remember working that night at the Listening Ear (a telephone hotline center). I remember the next day being asked why I didn't show up to my own surprise party. No one had invited me (family or friends), and I had no clue that anyone was going to. I mean, somebody could have at least called the center ... I would have answered the phone ...

And because of some weird twist of social custom, it was somehow my fault!

On my 21st birthday, my mother bought me some new clothes that would make me look like an adult than a child. I also picked to eat at this restaurant on the lake but I didn't know the food be so expensive and I didn't really like the food there I hardly could eat my pasta because it wasn't the same. I don't remember what gifts I got, shame on me. I stopped caring about my birthday because I'm an adult. But for my 22nd birthday, my family got me a Wii and my aunt and uncle took me to a movie and then to dinner.
On my 21st birthday was the day my ex didn't come back home because he had forgotten about my birthday so I finally connected the dots and realized he didn't care about me at all. He was too into himself and his life to even think about me. Bad at remembering dates, yeah right. He could remember his own and his friend's and my bf sure can remember mine and he is bad at numbers. His memory isn't good. He said I took my ex literal, oh well. We weren't right anyway. I did tell him I am literal and did he listen? No, he kept on teasing and doing sarcasm and not giving a s**t so he had it coming.

I don't think I did anything for my 21st. I remember doing nothing on my 18th, which is the adult age in Australia.
Drinking for me has made me a bit more sociable, but it's up to you. The good thing about drinking little is that you have better health than most people.

Your birthday should be about doing something that you enjoy. On my 23rd I played Nintendo and ate Banana cake. Now that was a good day, even if my friend thought it was sad that I didn't have a party or anything.