Giving Up

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I'm wondering what people's opinions are on giving in to Aspergers. Do people generally live happier lives after accepting the truth that Aspergers owns them? Or do people live happier lives when they keep trying to find people they know who accept them? I personally know no one in real life who has autism or aspergers.

I don't know if it's as simple as that. No matter what you have going on in your life, you need find a way to make yourself happy. AS doesn't "own" you, it's a term for how your brain works. I think that when people are happiest with themselves, it draws others to them. People aren't drawn to constant negativity. Not sure if that makes sense.

Why would I do either, AS is a part of who I am, and learning to work with it is the only way I will be sucessful in life. I have tried fighting it for many years, I have denied it too. And it wasn't until I accepted the diagnosis and started learning about myself that I was actually able to grow in any way.

I never wanted AS to control my life so I kept trying and I overcame being disabled. I used to get stressed out working too many hours a day and if there was too much to do, I used to get upset and panic when my routine would change at work or I had to do something unexpected.

Now I can work 40 hours a week and I have a bf and the last two relationships were stressful because the men were needy. My bf doesn't expect me to change and expect me to be on him every single minute we are together.

My personal opinion is that if one thinks that Aspergers's 'owns' them then they need to seek professional help so they can start living and stop worrying.

1. There is no "giving in" to Asperger's Syndrome - it does not "own" anybody, especially me. I own it as much as I own my hair, skin, and internal organs - because they are all a part of who I am!

2. I live a happier life knowing that I do not have to accept anybody except on MY terms, regardless of any other factors.

3. You're not an Aspie or Autie, are you?

I can't seek professional help. If I ask my mom, she'd either think I'm joking, say "ok" and then never do anything about it (she is very imaturee for a 40 year old I must say. She resembles a typical 16 year old in maturity), or ask me what's wrong (the worst of the 3). I can't get treatment until I am on my own and independent. That will be in 2 and a half years.

Yeah I agree with what everyone is saying.. if you let autism "own" you, then you will be in trouble. I just know it's a part of me but I am able to overall just go about my business and do what I have to do. Now this also depends on how functional the individual is, but me.. I am extremely high functioning. I had trouble as a kid but now I can function just fine.

I was professionally diagnosed at age 8.

I am still yet to be comfortable with it, having just been diagnosed, but I'm not letting it 'own me'. I guess it owning me would be the same as saying 'I give up, I'll stop trying because I can't do any better'?
If that's the case then no, I will not let it own me, but I'll work on the skills that I lack to be able to live a happy and independent life.

Where is the "neither" option?

For that matter, where's the "I don't care / Just show me the results" option?

I agree.

I was trying not to be too mean.

3. Neither of the above. Accept that my brain has these weaknesses, and try to use its strengths to work around said weaknesses.

Give him a break, his parents are probably the type that believe he can overcome it. It is not something that becomes overcame, but rather something that gets integrated as a part of normal life, to be normal is to live with the condition, not against it, and to do that, you will often be seen as odd, but you will be normal at the same time.