life is boring

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does asperger also come along with the problem of not feeling any joy.for me i know i never feel happiness or joy.most of my feelings are negetive.i feel excitement instead of happiness when i should have feeling of enjoyment.

I feel the same way sometimes. One week I'll cry over something stupid and the next week I'm ok about it. Or I can play a game one day and hate it the for a whole week. My grandpa died and I was the only one who didn't cry. And I usually joke when I'm not supposed to.. Like when someone is almost really badly hurt or is hurt. I think the only feeling that I don't confuse is fear or anger.

I do feel this way. I had lost the sources of enjoyment
such like marriage and friendships. Every time when I
left alone I feel nothing and have no motivation to
do anything else. All the these lead to severe depression
sometimes makes me feel completely drained out.

This feeling is hard to describe, just like dying slowly or
something......

i dont know if this is depression cause i have been feeling this since a child or as early as i remember.when i was young as 6/7 i used to think what is my reason in earth.is it abnormal?

I get enjoyment from different things that NTs do, for example I get happy by just looking at my iPhone but I don't care for things like flowers at all and I have no idea as to why people buy them and put them in their houses.

i am hardly ever really happy, i'm mostly apathetic, i don't care about anything, the only times i'm totally happy is when the routine is broken.

Well, there is no reason why we are born. People lead
their lives because they have goals to pursue. If you
lost your goal you will feel life is meaningless.

I am very lucky to have my special interests in art, and
that is the most important thing of my life.

common co-morbid is depression.
if you cannot motivate yourself, then get checked out for depression.

oh, and get off butt, and be accountable and go and do somehting to break the boredom. as hard as that can be for us routined and rigid little aspies...it does work.

Get on a plane and fly somewhere.

I have to wonder if, because we're wired to see things more logically than emotionally, if this is common. I don't get how people can seriously just be content to live their day to day lives. Why? Every day is the same. I wonder if anhedonia (the clinical term for a lack of pleasure in activities... that's something about me... I'm crazy about attaching the proper name to things. One of my doctors said "Well, if you wanted a diagnosis because you 'needed a label' then asperger's sounds about right") is common in spectrum people. I don't see how if you live a typical life that you can get much joy from it.

Life is f*****g boring. You get up. You eat. You shower. And so on. It's like playing The Sims except you can't stop playing and go do something else. People with really interesting jobs (movie stars, athletes, whatever), maybe their lives aren't boring, but for people with the 9-5 routine?

How long could they seriously go before putting a bullet in their head?

up, work, home, tv bed, up, work, home,tv bed.

9-5 work is dull that is true. one has to break their routine every once in a while.

i feel a whole range of emotions

Not only do I find my own life boring, I find most suburban 9-5 lives tiresome and mundane.

Life has been getting more miserable for me, I still have happy moments but AS has been making me unhappy because of social isolation.

I think NT's have an easier time with the 9-5 schedule because they learn to enjoy the social aspects of their job. I know I can't stand socializing with people who talk about the most boring subjects ever. I'll never find happiness in that aspect of life. I need a job that makes me happy and excited. Otherwise life isn't worth living. An empty existence is the worst kind of torture. It's like being locked in a box or stuck in solitary confinement for your whole life.

In general people are just DUMB. If I was stupid and shallow like everyone else I'd probably enjoy life better.

I think those of us on the spectrum CAN feel joy and anger and all that, but we get it from different things that the NTs get it from. For example, we might not be really upset when someone we know dies because or we might not feel very happy about marriage or graduation. What we do get hyper about, is the things that we're reaslly interested. For example, I have an Aspie obsession with the rock band KISS and, when their original guitarist Ace Frehley announced that his new band was coming to my area, I was very excited. And, while the concert was going on and after it was over, I was on an emotional high that lasted for several days.

Another thing, if you have a crush on somebody, your Autism or Asperger's Syndrome will make you even more obsessed with that person. So if he/she tells you that he/she loves you right back, I think you will feel overjoyed and on top of the world. If he/she tells you that he she does not feel the way you do, you will experience the heartbreak that NTs do, maybe even worse.

But, I think we just experience the emotions from different things than the NTs and, when we experience them, we experience them stronger than the NT does.