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Tomorrow is my birthday and I am spazzing out. I am being thrown a party and I am TERRIBLE with parties!! The noise, the people, all of it!! !! I NEED advice! How do you guys deal with parties? What do you talk about? How do you avoid simply wandering off on your own to hide????

Since I enjoy video games I just get out a party video game.
I don't know if that'd work out for you, but we have Wii Sports, and that keeps everyone entertained.
For the socializing part it's not even a lot anyway, if you do that.
I usually can cope anyway, since it's people I know xD.
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Welcome back to WP! as the retired Tim_Tex would write! Happy Birthday. So young.

I asked my 14 year old NT daughter and she said just to stand around and look cool, and smile at everyone. Then pair up with someone you feel comfortable with and stand close to them. She said this has worked when she has gone to others' parties. All the other girls do it.

Thanks guys! sartresue, please ask her what cool looks like!

All I care about is the food and cake and gifts and that's it. Everyone in my family would socialize while I be off by myself. I've only had a birthday party twice. I was 4 when I fist had one and I loved all the gifts and cake and right after I was done opening my presents, I wanted to play with my new roller skates made by Fisher Price, so my dad took me outside while everyone else talked and my cousins played with my new board game I got.

The second time I had it was June 10th 1995 and it was stressful. So I never had one again. It wasn't about the noise, it was the pressure kids put on me.

I guess the experience other aspies have here is being forced to socialize and be with people so no wonder they hate parties. I never had that happen to me.

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My daughter is tall and she uses the height advantage to look through others. She poses and holds the pose. (I have observed this.) Kind of a bored look, not revealling emotions. Poker faced. Looking at the ceiling, not the floor. Definitely not giggling.

Hope this helps.

It's probably too late for this time, but NEXT time, plan ahead. Tell the parents or whoever is in charge that you want something specific.

My daughter (NT) has taken a small group of friends out, once for a movie and once for horseback riding.

My son (Aspie) created a D&D adventure and acted as the DM while I made cheeseburgers. He did that for two birthdays in a row, around 6th grade or so.