My doctor yelled at me, left me emotionally shaken

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I went to see my doctor. I told him about a problem I currently have and showed him the medicines I have used so far. He advised me to use one of the medicines I showed him. I explained to him that I had already used that medicine and my problem hadn't improved. No sooner had I finished saying that than the doctor snapped at me. He told me that I didn't listen and that if I didn't like his opinion I could find another doctor. He is right, I can find another doctor, but his snapping at me left me emotionally shaken.

Last edited by Mw99 on 19 Mar 2009, 6:30 pm, edited 4 times in total.

Sorry about that Mw, he shouldn't have snapped at you! If you feel uncomfortable with him, find someone else who you can have a friendlier encounter with. Sorry he left you feeling shaken.

I hate being yelled at

You don't have to put up with that. Maybe he just had a bad day or something but he still shouldn't treat you that way. Maybe you should find a new doctor!

I agree. How in the world is he being helpful if he tells you to use a medication you already know doesn't work? I can see saying, "I don't know a solution to your problem," or suggesting a different dosage for something you'd tried already, but unless he had absolutely no idea what you were saying, I don't understand the point of insisting on using something you know doesn't work.

He is a human being. Human beings strive to be better than that and human beings can fail.
he was embarassed he failed, and knew he could do no better for you than proscribe the medication that didn't help you. He made the best recommendation, a different doctor.

how he got to that decision and how he delivered the news was unfortunate. I am sorry you got upset. I would have too.

Merle

Best thing to do is find a new doctor if you can...............

Pharmaceuticals are the livelyhood of psychiatrists. There's nothing more frustrating to a psychiatrist than to hear that the medicine has no beneficial effect on you. They don't know how to help aspies or autists.

Psychiatrists are not required to have learned any psychology.

They can help and many of their drugs have important benefits under some conditions. But some doctors believe in these drugs in the way witchdoctors believe in their fetishes.

It's wonderful being an educated patient but many doctors' egos can't stand the competition. It's their way or the highway.

I would be looking around for a new dr if I were you.

Get another doctor.

ruveyn

Mw99

What a hypocrate, that butt hole of a doctor. "You're not listening!!" Obviously he doesn't listen worth #$%. Indeed get a new one, and I hope you find one with a brain who isn't a butt hole to boot next time.

In your situation I would be looking for another doctor too. I have trouble with being snapped at and yelled at as well. I think there are a lot of doctors who need sensitivity training.

Get another doctor. When this happened to me, I never went back. A long time ago, I went to this psychiatrist on my first appointment. I had a list of my symptoms due to my memory loss, and he said, "in my (insert number of years of experience here) I've never seen anyone bring a list of their symptoms." That wasn't the bad part, believe it or not. When I suddenly went into catatonia, he got up to my face and yelled at me, basically saying its in my control and I'm faking my symptoms. I am sorry to say this but I hope he didn't just target me. I hope he's done it to other people too. He is nothing but a mean a**hole that should be fired from his job. No psychiatrist should treat their patients like that. He scared the crap out of me. Sometimes I go catatonic, sometimes I have disorganized speech, but I can't control it. Luckily its not 24/7, that would be bad. Its because I have been diagnosed (even though I don't agree with this diagnosis) with schizoaffective disorder. My current pdoc thinks my "delusions" are the most bizarre ones in history of delusions and ALWAYS thinks I am psychotic when I'm not. Its called DEPRESSION last time I checked. Self blame is not a delusion, but rather a symptom of depression. I do hallucinate, but mainly visuals. Now, I try my hardest to rely on my memory and now I'm afraid to bring lists if I ever get a new doctor. I don't want to look like that I'm "faking it."

Some prescribe anti-psychotic drugs to people on the autistic spectrum. That's immoral - not helpful at all. Most are not concerned with helping patients learn how to cope with problems. They're only concerned with having people take drugs .

As I said, psychiatrists are not required to have studied psychology. The annecdotes in this thread are a result of that.

[If] There are no pharmaceuticals designed to treat AS.
[and] Psychiatrists typically refuse to recognize AS.
[Then] Psychiatry's reason for existance is to prescribe pharmaceuticals.

That was very unethical of your doc. Possibly he was just having a bad day. Possibly he has bad days everyday. I would personally find another doctor if he's not good enough to make it worth that kind of disrespect. There's a great doctor in my area who has an awful bedside manner, but when you are dealing with certain types of surgery, you'd rather have him than the nice guys.

Your best bet is to imagine him having such an awful day that you find it justifiable in your mind. Maybe list things that would make it okay for him to do once to you that you would understand, and then just assume (whether right or wrong) that one of those things happened to him. The reason, you surely don't want to allow it to make you bitter about him. Why? You don't want to turn into a bitter old woman like me who types out a long response about how the pharmaceutical industry is taking over the medical community and you can seek revenge by wasting your life away to do nasty things and then realize you became the villain in children's cartoons, and since you don't want to raise your children to be villains by example, you need to change your life around, so you delete your hateful response and then find yourself struggling to come up with good advice. See how psychotic I just sounded. Do you really want to be that?

It just wastes money, stop going there if you can.