introductions of others

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Okay, I know some folks hate when people post every little thing and try to link it to AS ... and I hate doing that, but I can't help but wonder about some things, and this is one of those things. IF I ever can get back in to see my psychologist, I will be sure to bring this up; but for now I wanted to bring it up here and see if it's just me or if it's common in people with AS.

Anyway, sorry for my overly-descriptive intro paragraph ... on to my dilemma! I have always had a problem with introducing other people to ... other people. I suck at introducing my own self for starters, but for instance this past weekend my wife and I attended a major live comedy show (Bob & Tom's Comedy All-Stars). As we entered the theater and were walking to our seats, I immediately recognized one of my few real friends from back in high school. He recognized me right away and we started talking. I have always been so awkward, so I really didn't know what to say. I really just wanted to say hello and move on, but he kept talking so I engaged him in conversation as best I could. All this time, my wife is standing right beside us and to me it was like she didn't exist - the only two people in existence at that time, in my mind, were myself and my old buddy, Adrian! After we were finished and my wife and I walked off, I said, "Do you remember me telling you about him? We ran into him at Target one day a few years ago." Her response to me was that she did remember him, and that I didn't introduce her to him back then or in the present! I said, "Do I really have to introduce you? Can't you say hello?"

This has always been a problem, and I don't have much past experience to base it on because I never had a girlfriend until after high school. But I not only don't introduce her, I don't introduce ANYONE! Most of my friends have to introduce themselves to whomever I'm with because I simply don't think to do it. Back when she and I first started dating, we ran into my boss at the time and his wife (who is also my pyhsician) in Wal-Mart. I stopped and started talking to them, and my wife (girlfriend at the time) just stood there. After a while they finally introduced themselves to her, and I never thought twice about it - until afterward, and she asked me if I was embarrassed of her and all that jazz. Of course I wasn't, I just never thought to introduce her.

Anyway, so that's my life when it comes to introductions. I really, really, really suck at it!

It never even occurred to me that I was supposed to introduce people thanks for letting me know lol

Things have probably changed over the decades - but I remember in second or third grade, we had an entire unit on social skills (personal introductions, phone etiquette, etc.) We had to do role playing, until the entire class understood what to do in each situation. There was even homework, as I remember. And a workbook with a red cover.

Now that I think back on it, that class probably saved me a lot of grief (even though I thought a lot of it was corny & forced at the time.)

My AS BF ALWAYS forgets to introduce me to people and it's very annoying. He says he'll work on it, though.

I remember to introduce him, because I want people to know him.