Which do you prefer? to be ignored or to be bullied?

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Which do you prefer? to be ignored or to be bullied?

Ignored.

Ignored

Ignored is always better for everyone concerned. These days, people are being counseled more about how to react and respond and why they might be tempted to bully someone else. What is it that makes bullying so attractive?
The recommendation is it's better to just ignore than to bully someone over something.
Of course the best scenario would be a civilized, polite discussion. Unforunately, this isn't always an option.

I agree

To use a cliché analogy, that's like saying to me:

"Which do you prefer, the frying pan or the fire?"

My answer:

Neither


I've read somewhere that being ignored and ostracised is actually a form of subtle relational aggression (bullying).

Also some gentle harmless teasing or practical jokes between genuine friends can be misconstrued as bullying (I've made that mistake in the past).

When someone apologises for their behaviour, offers to help you and be friends again without malicious intent, then that isn't technically bullying.

But if you are a natural loner, it doesn't really effect you much.

I prefer to be ignored

Ignoring is one of the various tools to bully a person. Especially when they make a fuss if you ever dare ignore them in return.

Yes you are right, that is horrid too, though I like the kind of ignore where others are happy doing their own thing and understand that you tons of time alone, that is great ignoring.

I would prefer to be ignored. Being bullied isn't nice at all.

Ignoring someone on purpose when they ask a question or are attempting to make polite conversation is very rude and it's happened to me so much I don't bother with the polite conversation so much and only ask something if I absolutely have to.
If there's a way to find an answer online, I would prefer doing that because the internets aren't as rude as some of the people around here. Some people are just rude and they don't really care if they are and that describes most of the people I've known. Zero manners and they are proud of the fact!
Maybe ignore is inaccurate in this situation? If someone is about to go off on another person, they should just keep quiet. It isn't exactly ignoring someone. It's choosing not to say anything instead of belittling someone else.

I wouldn't notice if I was being ignored because I don't say anything anyway. I mean, if it was by my family or something, then probably bullied, or something.
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I liked to be ignored

Definitely, ignored.

Interestingly enough though, I read just yesterday in a book that the average person prefers negative attention to no attention at all. I wonder if that is an innate difference between NT and autistic people?

Not that I LIKE being ignored, it´s just better than being bullied.

Ignored. I assume this was a serious question. Was it?

ruveyn