Dealing with someone who does not take "No" as an

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This is funny that you bring this up because one of my neighbors who he talks to came and asked me about the note on the car this afternoon. She was wondering why I would do that since he was evidently parking his car in front of our building to walk her dog while he she was out of town. However, I felt that it was strange to park one car in front of our building when his is only a few feet away and leave his car there over night until he drove again.

I told her the story as to why I put the note there by starting off with an "I don't like him." I then told her the story that he has a crush on me and she had absolutely no idea what had happened. In fact, she was shocked since she did not know him very well as it turns out. It also turned out that he was manipulative and flaky with her in contacting her whenever he wanted something. I was very surprised. He had also ignored her for several months when he was living with his girlfriend and her daughter until recently.

As for the camping in our breezeway, it did not really sound like she wanted him there and asked him to use the wifi somewhere else.

At any rate, I am glad that she talked to me about it and has a better idea of the kind of guy this person is. I was also happy to hear her side of the story which indicates how much of a real friend he was to her.

Over the last two and a half years, I have lived in a condo community which I normally do not have problems with. At the same time though, there is a guy who lives in a building next to mine.

He has had a crush on me from day one. However, I have sensed a red flag about this guy from the start. For instance, I gave him several hints the first time we introduced ourselves that I was not really interested. However, he did not seem to respect my wishes every time we would cross paths as time went on.

For instance, he often stops what he is doing and stares at me with this little smile on his face that looks like, "Hi honey did you miss me?" It is enough to give me the creeps. He has also tried to bother when when I am outside doing something by asking what I like to do besides studying. He has also stopped to give me the stare when I have been on the phone with friends before too. This has led me to shout at him to go away and leave me alone. I have also had to walk into my house and shut the door in his face as a hint but it has not seemed to work.

He has also been known to make himself known if we see each other on occasion. For example, he saw me last week eating pizza in public and openly acknowledged me by nodding. I looked at him and said, "No thank you." He then started parking his car front of my building instead of his own building for the last three days. So I wrote him a nice letter earlier this afternoon and explained that I am not interested in him and that he might think about parking in front of his own building. I also said that I have my own life and when I am home I like my own space. I had also taken down his license plate number while I was at putting the letter on his windshield under one of the wipers.

He then read the letter when I was inside today and then quietly tore it up and threw the shredded paper back on my front door which left me to find the torn letter on my door mat as I was headed out to runs some errands.

So, I talked to a member on the board about his behavior after I discovered his retaliations after reading my letter. When I first dropped the letter off and got a hold of his license plate number, I called the property management administration about his behavior.

The question now is, what is my next step if I catch him defying me like that again?

I mean I had warned him last summer before that if he did not stop bothering me that I would call the police and he said that I was acting like a little girl.