The Dino-Aspie Cafe (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Based on your post, TRUE, I'd say this IS the place for you. I too laughed 'til I was in tears (or cried 'til I laughed, can't remember which now) when I read the YMBAAI list...



Oh, yeah, the clothing issues. I check in a big mirror strategically located next to my front door before I reach for the door handle. Just to be sure. Though, I am puzzled: I've never done SIDEWAYS underwear before. Sounds like a topological challenge to me.



The more I read here, the more I see similarities between myself and other frequenters of our little "Cafe"... (TRUE, have you had a chance yet to scan the first 100 pages? I think you'll find some enlightenment there). Heh. I guess that makes me a "normal Aspie" too!



Alex, the Site Administrator. He is quite good about restricting access to the site by troublemakers.



I truly hope you find this place a comforting and comfortable place to visit.

Hi CC. I still think of myself as being weird, along with being an Aspie. Hah!

Medicare: "We hope you die before your appointment" is their slogan. It isn't the best care. I have Medicare and MediCal and will lose the MediCal in a month or two for certain reasons. Which means the Medicare will go back to being deducted from my Social Security Disability checks. I have back problems.

Have you gotten the giant Medicare booklet yet? It's not really a booklet, it's like a magazine sized item. It's about as much fun to read as tax documents.

Your soon to be ex-boss sounds like an idiot. I've noticed this idiocy runs rampant in the boss category. I think it's a prerequisite to get a boss-type job. Not all of them are that way. Just the ones I've run into.

The vacation sounds wonderful! I hope you have a splendid time. Do you have anything planned out to do during the vacation?

Have a muffin, True. Just watch out, people are putting prunes and making them out of bran now, I don't think that's healthy.

The net is like that. I suppose I have come across to some as "stalky", I never mean too. It's just my nature to want to know about people more, sometimes. A lot of times it's more then what they would like to say and I don't see the boundrys that well. It doesn't help things when i go through my "swings", got a touch or three of bipolar working on me as well as some other things. So I run a guantlet of how I come across, not always of my choosing. I pick out a person or two and when the response is less then what I assume , I get the picture after a while. I keep a 2x4 handy as a lot of things that are simple for most to see, I just don't. I peroidicaly need a whack up a side of the head. Although Merle took aim at another part, god I walked into that one. Now that is a perfect example, she may well think I'm stalking her and I suppose in a way I am. How I look at it is, we have a lot in common and I relate to her. When i picked her out and others here, it's my nature to want to shoulder her burdens as well, so hence that stalked feeling. But as much to those that i have picked out, others here will most likely get a turn or two, lucky them. I also have a nasty habit of not letting secrets stay secret, that I try to put it all out on the line, mine I mean, not others. I don't have much of a sense of letting my little evil demons stay hidden, they like it too much. It bugs some people when I speak my mind, i do try to temper it, but not always and again, feel bad after the bridge is burned and wish i had worded it differently. I mean, christ we all have had enough of the NT world to not have to go through it here. So my 2x4 is always near me and I very often have my back turned. Feel free, the boop the gopher, win a can of spam, game is over in another corner, people here just never knew it was me I was talking about

It can get hard to keep up with this place sometimes, just pick out the shinys and go with it. Please yourself, this is shelter from the storm. We've all been blown out on the trail. I'll try not to give you a lethal dose. (my thanks to B Dylan for those last few thoughts and words)

Thanks. We're working on it. I'm not a beach or pool person, I'm not into playing sports. I like to get an understanding of the culture, visit cathedrals, museums, out of the way shops, book stores, jewelry (they mine amber there in DR). So an excursion into Santo Domingo is a must. My husband is a fisherman, so I'm sure a must for him will be a charter fishing trip for Marlin or Mahi Mahi. My daughter is keeping our interests in mind. She golfs, plays tennis, and enjoys pretty much all sporting activities as does her husband and daughter. So we'll mix it up a bit.

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This is an interesting but confusing concept to me. This picking out of persons. What does it mean to "pick out the shinys and go with it"? I've always felt that the posts in this forum are intended for everyone here, and maybe that is naive. It's just when I post something I am addressing no particular person, but all. Unless I am replying to a question asked of me, or a point made that I am in agreement or disagreement with or need clarification on. I don't think that I am trying to form a relationship with any one but all. I guess there are people who ignore some posts and read only posts from certain others. Interesting concept.

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After thinking about this, I realized that, yes, I have done "sideways underwear". More than once.

Lupine, it's that thong underwear and sometimes it looks the same no matter which way it's put on. And, no, I haven't read the first 100 pages of this section. Hah! I wasn't sure what kinds of people would be here, and if it would be a good place for me. I didn't want to get too excited about this place in case it wasn't a good place for me.

There's a way to restrict people from coming here? That IS an improvement. This guy on the other site had been kicked off over 20 times or so and keeps coming back. They have nothing to prevent people from making as many accounts as they want, or to block anyone from continually rejoining. There's been nothing I can do to stop him or prevent him, other than to leave.

I'd tried another site, and some creep went off on me there, so I left there too. And NONE of the NTs get it.

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Which brings me to Postpaleo's post, that is what the second creep went off on, thinking I was stalking him. I couldn't understand what the person was saying. I mean, it was English, but the way the words were arranged made no sense to me. He is very skilled at obfuscation, and I didn't understand. I'd ask, and get no answer. So I read some other posts that he had written, and the next thing I know, he's screaming "stalking". He's a blithering idiot.

Those two men are two of the most repulsive people I've run across online. Most of the NTs aren't much better. Trying to explain or ask for explanations in the NT world has given me nothing but frustration.

I'm so tired today. I'll probably go sleep a bit more. I don't sleep well. Maybe I can sleep more soundly knowing that I can come here to talk to people, instead of being picked on elsewhere.

Cosmiccat, congratulations on your handling of the mentally challenged boss. I think it's an NT thing to attribute motives to people that rightfully belong only to them. I hope everything falls apart when you leave! No, that's harsh. But it seems to be a fairly common occurrence in the work place, that when you've been a valuable employee, they don't appreciate it.

In my case, it WASN'T thong underwear...

OK, so NOW are you convinced this is a good place for you?! I think so!

shivvers and sparkles and is all shiney too!

Honey, Postie, dear heart,
I never thought you were stalking, hell I barely had any idea you were giving me any more attention than anyone, that's how clueless I am about it all! I just knew you were married and I have a real strict rule about that so I didn't get even close, cause I have this limerence issue and didn't want to get all excited about a man that loved my BRAIN or anything.
I never did any writing for you because I am packing up the apt and moving and frankly, that and working full time takes up all my energy.
I would like to get you a pic of me in my full on dominatrix kit, but I still haven't learned how to upload even if I DO have it over on brain bucket or image shack or what ever.

anyway, you said something about not picking favorites in the home for the elderly and . . well. . I am so aspie about all of that.


your girl,
Merle

Thanks, Hartz. The thing is, I'm always so surprised when people for whom I have no animosity, and indeed, often admire and respect, treat me in a way that is so harsh. I think my boss must be a corporate game player, and her moves are an attempt to further herself in the game, to stay on the board, get back into the inner circle when she decides further on down the line that it is time for her to return to work. And coming from that mind-frame, assumes that I too am playing a game. I couldn't play that game if I tried, it's too exhausting. And where's the thrill?

Yes she is projecting onto you. She is saying whatever comes into her head. You just happen to be in the way. I think you are stung by the fact that fact that she has called you unethical.

The right thing is to look after yourself and family. You are harming nobody, just taking benefits that you have worked so hard for.

She is probably all over the place with her hormones, and wanted everything to go smoothly for her own retirement. And yes she may feel like a martyr.

Why be hurt by ONE person. Please withdraw you resignation and stick with your original plans. And switch to your logical mind, submerge the hurt while you are at work.

Haven't read past your post so I'm not up to date on what others have said.

For the most part you have it correct. I try to keep it group oriented. With Merle, sorry again for you as an example, she was at Woodstock, I was too, some other culture things from that time that she has talked about that I relate to very heavily. I mean how many others knew about officer Obie, she didn't have to look it up and she knew she was writing about Guthries song from the get go. Her interest in Archeology is another. Most of the time it's like you say, Lau takes out his brain and damn you just have to go with it. Maybe I've made a mountian out of a mole hill. Somethings interest me here and other things don't, but someone will find the things I don't very shiney.

My mother used to call me a kitchen sink. Pull out the plug and it all comes out. I think I owe it to people to tell all so they know it all. I feel so much more at home in this cafe where everybody is open, and do not try to hide their vulnerabilities. I haven't talked to anyone at this level for years and I'm always trying to edit what I say in RW. I am NT but I am very weird.

And PP if you want to lash out, this is the place to do it. I expected to get hurt by others on WP because of Aspies unawareness of the feelings of others in a social setting. But I think your true innerselves live here in cyberspace. Does that make sense? (Have often been hurt by son-in-law who is not aware of this but now methinks me knows why now...whispered aside He's Ubby's father. I'm trying to get some housework done before I go out but you all keep distracting me!

I'v finally written a signature whic I think is cool but doesn't show. Will check it when I get home

Interested is the better word. Married shmarried, I don't give up 50% of the world because of some binding contract that never had that in it to begin with. What you set up for yourself is your problem Never ment it to get exciting in that way. I fail to understand why two people if of the opposite sex think that it has to lead to a given spot, bed. I refuse to look up 'limerence' but I catch the drift, what ever floats your boat. Yeah I knew you are a busy girl, better you then me with the packing stuff. If you decide to write that's fine if you don't that's cool too. I extended an offer that's all. If you do write, never write for me, write for you. I'd love to see you get all politcal, might not agree with it 100%, but that's what makes the world go round. Having a go round on the grandkids site about guns, think he learned a little something about fear. It wasn't the fear he expected either.

Now see there you go, scaring the begeezus out of me with the outfit, but damn, see that's what I mean, I get all interested in what makes a person tick that is into it. I ain't fraid of no ghosts and I've seen more then a few of those get ups. Whips and chains, yeah, but no ghosts. Umm don't think that picture would fly here, lol. Although I suspect you would get more then a little support to post it.