What would help you get on better in life?

Post Reply New Topic

the counselor is properly thought of as a useful tool to accomplish certain things.

I need to go to a different world.

What would help me?
Having a good solid support network of friends, living in close proximity.

A shadow of sorts, a couple days per week.

either 50+ points more IQ [IOW vastly brighter] or total absence of addlements.

Diminished emotional intensity.

no aches and pains.

Real adaptation skills, not just coping skills. I wanna master it since I figured it's 'base'. Except it's impossible to describe this.
It's like telling someone with sensory issues to take strong stimuli, without accommodations, and not being overwhelmed by it -- .. Which I actually did, kinda why I get the base of adaptation instead of clinging on coping and compromise.

Kinda how I figured as an autistic. Because I no longer focus on my senses. Because I don't focus on behavior. Because I don't only be aware what's at front of me and what I'm feeling. I wanna go beyond that.

Real social skills of not just knowing what to do or say -- it's the matter of when, how, why, etc. Those complex stuff, that is, really overwhelming when you get a gist of it. The very thing that NTs gets and draws from unconsciously. Real skills like negotiations, subtile reading, etc.
And more emotional intelligence. I have the affective empathy, yet I don't have the skill to act upon it. It's frustrating.
I don't want something superficial like scripting or acting, or counting your friends and how many times you contacted them. I don't want that kind of social skill where relationships is made to look like more of a chore or a competition. Or stuff that children usually learns in GMRC of being a 'good girl and bad girl' rigidity because the whole thing is damn misleading.


Maybe, losing my conscience a bit. And feel less guilt. It always held be back.

And absolutely NO constant sneezing, no clogged or dripping nose on daily basis or on unpredictable reasons. No more sinusitis, no more rhinitis. That would surely make my life several times better than it already is.

Gained Number Post Count (1).
Lose Time (n).

Lose more time here - Updates at least once a week.

^^^ YMMV but that said, I got rid of the bulk of my sinusitis/rhinitis/allergic sensitivities, by adopting a low-acid diet.

Sometimes I think the only thing that would solve all my practical problems and go a very long way to helping me get on better in life, is if I had a massive financial windfall like winning the lottery.

Then I could leave the living situation I'm in right now which I hate and gives me a lot of stress. I could finally buy my own home and have a huge chunk more control over my life in those terms.

It would also help me to be a driver again. The most free and powerful-feeling part of my life was when I had a drivers license and my own car. The autonomy that gave me was beyond words.

I have neither now, and can't afford them (I now can barely afford to EAT let alone run a car) and there's a sense in which I actually mourn that loss every day of my life. My life feels very limited and also actually unsafe now that I don't have the autonomy and protection of that kind of vehicle.