How many of us here are self sufficient?

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I voted yes, but I think that that is mostly if you define being self-sufficient as paying my own way with jobs.

Emotionally, I am a bobble head. When I lived without a roommate, I found that I quit caring about whether the housework got done: it was too much for me to handle emotionally after being at work. I would bounce between optimism and depression. I would just not eat anything that didn't come from a package some days because I didn't want to cook and no one would notice if I didn't.

My husband keeps me centered. He reminds me that we HAVE to do the dishes and mow the lawn and eat more variety than ramen and its better since we do it together. I'm not so sure I'm "sufficient" without him, but I do have a job and keep track of my bills and expenses to a T. (Money sucks.)

Think I am self sufficient as mutch as possible. After I retired from work, I have lost all kinds off confidence for others, as I have been bullied to much.

So now I am working on begin a urban hermit. Works rather well, probably my neighbours do not like having a hermit in their souroundings. But I am rather used not being accepted so I think I just carry on.

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being an urban hermit is more practical than being a hick hermit.

I am financially self sufficient, but cannot live alone. My friend is kind of my aide, takes care of me and reminds me to do stuff like bathe and get up. (He works part time.) If I did not have him I would have to hire an aide or live in some sort of assisted home even though I make a normal type of salary.

sort of but not really well. i mean, i've lived on my own for probably thirty years. well, sometimes with boyfriends or roommates, but probably 15-20 years alone exclusively.

i've supported myself financially. even when living with an SO i've supported myself. but, right now, just these last two years, i'm on disability, which i don't really regard as self-supporting. i did okay until the last 5 years or so. i think i hit aspie-middle-age-burnout among other things (huge escalation in PTSD symptoms for one).

and there's no question i function better when i live with someone, even though i can manage (at least i have so far) alone, i simply get more accomplished having another presence in my life. otherwise i tend to get depressed and decompensate.

On the outside I look self-sufficient but on the inside I struggle to hold it all together. I worry about having to talk to people at work, having to make conversation, being assertive when I need to be, meeting new people, going into new situations, having to use the telephone. I hate using the phone. Once I get to know people and feel comfortable I ease up but at first its so nerve-racking for me. I have definitely developed more confidence over the last year but sometimes these feelings and fears become pronounced.

For me, I worry the most about the social aspect of my aspergers. Other than that I'm pretty self-sufficient.

I'd like to be, but I'm not sure how to signal to my parents that I'm ready to start looking for a new place to call home, of my own. They're quite protective of me. I'm often having to support them financially because my dad is currently out of work, and I'd be willing to lend a hand. I just feel my life would be incomplete without the experience of having even tried to live alone for 30 days.

I'm not yet, but I'm trying.
I just need to find someone willing to pay me a wage that covers both my rent and my monthly expenses.
I'll get there eventually.