Are NTs afraid of aspies?

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Both Aspies and NTs are capable of causing harm to the earth and society like pollution, homicides, sexual harassment, drive by shootings, etc. It should be that both sides should be concerned about their own consequences for their actions and not just those of others. I heard that lots of Aspies do fit into society very well, so it makes it almost harder for NTs to be afraid of us. The only thing that I can think of that is fearful when it comes to ASD's is tantrums and meltdowns (I could be wrong though). Yet, there's always a solution for these types of events.

People openly admit they're scared of me. One girl that said "everyones scared of you", explained it by saying "you've got this sense about you". I don't really know what the hell that means but I'm guessing its the fact I don't display normal body language so I'm not as readily predictable. I also have lots of extreme ideas, maybe that has something to do with it. Nobody knows I have mild autism so I'm guessing they think I'm just insane or something.

Not all NT's are afraid of aspies. Those that aren't afraid of us accept us for who we are. People who know me very well aren't afraid of me. Most of them know about my diagnosis.

But I have to admit that some are very afraid of us. I believe that a lot of the fear is due to the natural human instinct of fear of the unknown. The stigma of the autism spectrum can also cause some NT's to fear us. Two girls back in high school that I didn't know at all found out about my diagnosis and have been afraid of me ever since. For me, most NT's that fear me are ones I don't know at all.

Once in school, a classmate said of me (admittedly, while I was in the midst of a meltdown), "Whoah, he's the only kid in school I'm afraid of."

Most people aren't afraid of aspies, though they in general find the aspies somewhat awkward - and that creeps them out. It is mostly an issue about facial expressions, body language, tone of the voice, and not so much about the intellectual skills (though people in general are fearing science too, because most people are unable to understand what science is).

I for one don't "fear" anyone (NT Here) but I do notice "quirks" which usually peak my curiousity. Before my son was born (pdd/nos) I had no clue about autism other than "full blown autistic" kids that could not communicate or things of that nature. I had more than one friend who fit the "so smart their weird" category, of course now that I am armed with knowledge I realize that these friends were spectrum but I was never afraid of them, a little intimidated by them yes, I mean I felt absolutely STUPID talking to them as I couldn't keep up with more than 10% of their intellect LMAO but I just chalked the lack of "normal" social skills up to the fact that they didn't have time for our petty ideas of normality.

NT's fear Aspies because Aspies are different. NT's are afraid of what they don't understand.

more distinctions need to be made here. it seems to be that, while a majority of NTs are the sort that wants to be like other people & likes other people to be like them, a smaller but significant proportion prefers to be different from other people & appreciates difference in others. i have almost always found tolerance, & often support, among the latter, who tend to be alienated just as much in their own way (cf the first group i mentioned). conformity in our pseudo-individualistic age is a serious problem, true. but it does not help anyone to look at this in an alarmist way.

the first thing that comes to mind, is the fact that the group of like-minded (i associate these with Myers-Briggs dominant Sensing, mostly Extraverted Sensing types--but this pattern is not limited to those) is susceptible to what they are told; & if they are told there is a new minority among them that needs to be respected, eventually they will raise their kids to respect them & it will not always be prejudicial to grow up as one of that minority.

another point, is that there are what might be termed healthfear-crazes, or hot topics that sweep through society, by the same media, influencing people's insecurities into taking irrational & sometimes drastic action. maybe profit lies behind these, maybe they just happen & charlatans latch onto them. the thing about childhood immunization falls under this head. basically, put the facts out & discredit the fearmongers, is the way to proceed.

finally, i have come to understand that resistance to difference is not all the same even in those who are like-minded; & autism-spectrum affects them more viscereally even than skin color or physical deformity. this may be because they cannot imagine a mind that is otherwise & not inimical. or else maybe it is not even that close to being a thought.

this last may be beyond remedy; hence the need to write protection explicitly into our laws.

m.