Saying NO to the "A" word

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maybe because autism linked him with wrong planet and now we can all cyber socialize?

Or Ci is shipwrecked...

I will explain self-centered. It is not like when others call others self-centered traditionally as in your being selfish like you want more cake and not share. This is a special context in a unique circumstance. If you have reinvented autism for your own usage in politics people are going to disagree with you. When you say autism is not a disability you are essentially mocking people that experience the disability and when you say you don't want sympathy when you use the autism label for your own social purposes you are also mocking the disability others experience. You are very high functioning so why would you want to reinvent autism for social recreational purposes and seek to downplay the disability others experience for social purposes. It seems to be your using the disability others have when you have a very mild form of it but doing a disservice to them as if they do not experience hardship just because your may be embarrassed of them. Perhaps it would do you a good service to spend time with those that have classic forms of autism or those that because of autism are not well integrated.

I'm not sure I can agree that finding a like minded group of people for online chat constitutes 'using' his autism. When phrased that way is sounds very negative and condescending. Autism certainly has not facilitated his 'live action' social agenda. I know finding WP was a means of last resort for me - it was a final admission that I did, indeed, fail in the real world to make and maintain human contact. I'm not sure I'd consider it 'using' autism... that sort of implies dishonest behavior to gain some undeserved benefit.

I said I didn't want to be mean about it. Perhaps balancing with a positive statement.

Then merely a coping mechanism and false fact of autism not being a disability. Differing minority groups have infighting. This infighting is unique because it's about coping with a disability. Should awareness center around self-esteem or curing the disability aspects. These are the fundamental questions and concerns at play here and dividing points.

A guy ego does not want sympathy it is considered pity.

Beating on ones chest is symbolic of macho man ego.

Typically a male does not want to be perceived inferior. It could explain some of the absurd conflict. I've been attacked for the compassionate use of words definitely. Although there is no general explanation in totality for relevant behavior I think it is becoming more understandable. If someone says autism is not a disability yet described the difficulties it seems quite clear the issue is at source confusing yet by legal definition autism is a disability and in day to day life many experience the disability and exclusion.

The self-centered remark was not about insulting the person. It was about looking at the person as the center of the label and the definition. Folks told me to look up the definition and it declares one being absorbed and the word is "center" and "self". Had I used it to be insulting I would have made clear the insult and even said I do not want to be mean. Yet because of the nature of the conversation and it being very positive I am not sure why a word that can be used as an insult like a mother toward a child saying it but in this context in relation to the label it would be considered the same but nothing was to be gained in the context such as more cake then others at a party leaving some without cake.

It was a self-centered deceleration of autism not being a disability when collectively apparently it is. I realize the issue is sensitive and pride typically disdains compassion and sympathy towards pride but these are the root conflicts socially. How can one be viewed innately as equal as anyone else but be said as of defect since birth. A self-centered definition of autism is not subjective enough to the whole thus to say autism is not a disability just from ones own point because of how one experiences it is not enough evidence.

The stereotypical use of a phraseology as an insult does not denote in this context insult.