Mothers making it worse for their autisic children with love

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For example take this lady who has written all over he house in an attempt to keep her son safe from police. This is obviously a severe case of autism. Perhaps more so then the people posting here. But how does this look to outsiders? To some it's expecting the world to deal with her problem and this is going to make them less likely to help. "Problem" is a strong word but that's what it is in a way. He requires a level of care that most people are unwilling to give. He's probably gotten out and caused trouble in the neighborhood. The neighbors already don't like him. The signs make it seem as though she is not taking responsibility. She is saying everyone else needs to deal with him too. Sadly a lot of Americans would rather people like him not even live. Now every day on their drive to work they see in their mind pressure to parent him.

And with American police they are NOT going to help. All they are doing is making the cop nervous and more inclined to think this is a situation that calls for deadly force. They think"There are signs warning me of this person so how dangerous is he?" as they place their hand on their gun.

Our cops are not like the rest of the world they are paranoid and scared and they can and will kill you and get away with it. There are many cases of autistic people being killed by them for no other reason then the cop "feared for their life". There does not need to be any evidence for this in court other then the cop's feelings and the law will protect them.

I see this all the time. Parents loving and the public not understanding. I hope this does not come out as harsh since I am myself on the mild end of autism. But I think parents would be wise to remember most people in the world were not in the delivery room with you. They have no bond with your kid and they do not have any interest in understanding their life. You only annoy people when you insist they understand.

I see your point and it's good you know the mother has good intentions and she loves her son but yet I see your point about how this will all look to the outside world. The fact she has to warn everyone about her son is indicating he is dangerous and to stay away since cops have to be called on them. Cops just indicate violence and domestic violence so hence them coming. She is alienating her son even more with those signs. People don't know her son, even I don't know him so even as someone slightly on the spectrum. I wouldn't know either if her kid is violent and aggressive and would be very nervous to come to her house and even have him be around my children. But she seems to have indicated he is just by what she said in the video. Yes that will make me nervous, way to alienate your son by saying how aggressive he is and cops being called. A label does not change anything, if someone is violent, they are, I treat it as such. I make no exceptions. "Oh he is autistic, okay, if he decides to start hitting me, I will gladly accept it because he is autistic despite him being a grown man."

It boggles my mind that she would put signs like that around her house. She's just alienating her son that much more. What if a bunch of schoolyard bullies came by their house one night and started to vandalize the property. What if neighbours walk by with their kids and they start reading all the signs. Does the outside world need to know all the issues that her son deals with?

I also think it would be a good idea for someone to teach her son facilitated communication so that the media could get his side of the story. He might understand a lot more of what's going on than he gets credit for.

Welp...

Believe me...

If the mom has resorted to basically put up a bill board so the cops don't gun down her son, the whole neighborhood knows this son has "issues". She not alienating him, because the neighbors (times to donuts) are already actively avoiding him.

Having lived in apartment buildings in the past 30 years, and experienced living with two people with level III autism near by, BELIEVE ME, the neighbors knew all their business.

The running, wandering, screaming, pounding, the never ending police cars and ambulances showing up...
The one person used to wander outside sans clothes. The mom could not get the person back inside, and some neighbor would call the cops. They were eventually evicted because of noise complaints.

The people who painted the sign for the cops; their lives are unmanageable. No paints that on a garage which will piss your neighbors off to no end. The person living across the street doesn't want to see that every morning, and is probably actively praying those people will move. Social services won't give a s**t, because a violent, non verbal adult is a difficult group home placement. Not a whole lot of services for adults with level III either. The cops don't want the person with Autism, because he's triple the amount of work at the jail. The ER and hospital is going, "What the hell do you want us to do about it besides 4 point restraints and Haldol?".

If the news reports and sign shames community mental health into moving it's ass to help the family out, it is what it is.

I feel horrible for the son and the family.

ETA: my LE friends would much rather have a heads up that the person raging has Autsim. Raging people could be drugged out on God knows what. There is a huge difference how they approach/handle a meth head acting out vs a non verbal person with Autism in the middle of a meltdown.