Working out and attractiveness?

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Can anyone become 'good looking if they hit the gym and build loads of muscle?

I don't know mate. I mean having self respect is in itself an attractive trait

I am guessing facial aesthetics is more significant than a hot body

Probably

To a point, typically peak attractiveness will be when you're in good shape, if you keep going beyond that, often times it gets less attractive. Ultimately, most of the bits about being attractive tend to be related to perceived abilitly to reproduce and perceived status in society.

Yes, but it’s a superficial form of attractiveness if that’s the aim. Superficial relationships don’t tend to last long.

If you go to the gym, you’ll find greater satisfaction if you make your health and your wellbeing your primary focus.

The most attractive people are the most authentic and mentally healthy in my experience.

"Loads of muscle" is a red flag for women looking for relationships.

I doubt the correlation is all that strong, if it exists at all. What's attractive to one person isn't attractive to another. There might be a sub-cult of women who go for muscular men, but it's probably an awful lot of work to become muscular, and then there's the problem of finding this sub-cult of admirers. Meanwhile the women who don't go for muscles lose interest in you, so it's like playing reggae instead of folk music - you'll just get the attention of a different set of fans but the numbers probably won't change much.

And there are so many other parameters, many that can't be altered.

I used to believe in the importance of some kind of "global attractiveness" that would have girls beating a path to my door, but gradually I started to think that compatibility was a lot more important. There might be something in the looks thing for people interested in one-night stands, but even then I think a lot depends on the taste of the individual woman. People aren't just a homogenous bunch of clones. Each person has their own preferences. Everybody has their own hopes and fears.

When I was in circulation I began to focus mostly on personality - both my own and theirs. I became more successful with women when I started to do that. It was a lot more about what I did than how I looked. And it seemed to me that when a woman liked me it was because I liked her - for better reasons that just wanting a girlfriend - and wasn't afraid to show that. Being cheerful, confident, and positive helped, but those qualities don't come to order very easily. Fake them at your peril unless you don't care what happens tomorrow.

It has been my experience that the people most interested in muscles on men, are other men.

Being a good person is far more important than simply being good-looking.

Agree 100%

I think it depends on what you're trying to attract. Consider the people that are attracted to specific appearances, and that's what will be attracted when you present like that.

I agree that there's a loose general attractiveness scale, but that's at the collective level. At the individual level, each person has their own tastes.

That makes about as much sense as saying "big tits are a red flag for a man looking for relationships".

I think the bigger red flag would be how someone behaves with their load of muscles (or big tits, big ass, etc). If someone's always seeking to draw attention to a feature like that, that might be a red flag, but simply possessing a feature shouldn't be a red flag on it's own.