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Any length of time with that sort of feeling is too long, but still I am very glad it did not last longer.

It is not so uncommon to experience things like that around one's period

Yeah. I call periods "vaginal flu" because sometimes they can make your hormones give you all sorts of ailments. I wish I were a man. Lol

My biggest problem now is being too attached to something.

Something I've gotten attached to during my worst years.

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I've learned to trust my instincts in my life because they're the only thing that will save me

I've learned that if something feels off then I have to trust that it is off

And that's all I need to know really

For sure. You don't owe anybody your trust and you should never feel bad about withholding it.

I don't think instincts should ever be bullied. They are there for a reason. They are what we have learnt about the world.

Maybe sometimes you defer to someone else's risk assessment rather than your own - if you trust that person and think they have better insight. But that is trusting that person, not ignoring your own instincts or experiences. And it's a choice you make on the basis of your own judgement.

In general if you've learnt that an environment or situation is not trustworthy, treating it as though it were trustworthy seems not very sensible. If something changes so that it is trustworthy I think that is something the brain also learns over time, not something to take... on trust

That is only what I think.

I hope someone puts something like that on the 'be kind to yourself' thread some day. That there is nothing wrong with not feeling trust or warmth or whatever. It is too easy to feel bad about what we don't feel.

About trusting a second time, Jakki? I don't think that is cynical.

I think environments can change. I am not sure about people.

I think very often people do something to break trust and then feel hurt because they are not trusted. Sometimes people will use their own emotional response to try to get you to override your instinctive (learnt) mistrust - not necessarily because they are manipulative. Sometimes just because they are immature. But it is emotionally coercive.

I have regretted overriding my instincts every time I have tried to. It has been a bad idea but also stressful. So my thinking was that maybe 'wait and see' or 'do nothing' is a kinder response overall (kind to self and kind to other) than 'I'll convince myself I trust you'.

But if someone or something causes actual harm, I would not stick around to see if that might change. It's like how pain is supposed to teach us not to touch a hot stove.

I am not sure about any of this

I've been doing really well lately
I'm kind of proud of myself but I don't wanna brag

I've been working more things out for myself and I'm less reliant on my therapist
But he's still there for me but I just don't need to bother him as much

Had some massive life event since the new year and that threw me off course for a day or two until I sorted my head out
I've tied up a lot of loose ends and I've left a lot of stuff that was hindering my progress behind

I've learned so much about myself as well since I pulled myself out of that dark place I was in

I've been waking up really well in the morning as well which suggests a good night's sleep
It all goes towards dunnit