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Why is he putting up a fight?

Duck: You are doing well today. I'm proud that you are trying to get out of your situation.

Now I see: you're trying to persuade him to do the alimony thing without you having to move in with him. And he's being stubborn about it.

What does your mother say, if you don't mind me asking?

I bet she really doesn't want to lose you, despite what she says, and how she treats you.

If I were in your position, I would want to get independent from the both of them! It seems like they need treatment themselves! Why don't they just let their son grow?????????

What does SHE think is best for you? To languish under her roof, not taking public transportation, not driving, not being an adult, etc.

Tell me: what is she going to do if you happen to take a bus?

I think you have to honor her in a way, since she's your mother. Does she have some kind of chronic condition? Does she fear living alone because of that?

Even if she has a chronic condition, she has a moral obligation to let you grow, and to allow you to reach your full potential. Living under her roof, under those conditions, will not allow you to reach your full potential.

It seems to me like you have a path towards independence, if only your father would do the alimony thing (which is no skin off his back, by the way. It wouldn't cost him anything, I don't believe). Your father's acting like a fruitcake, too. He's not being a good dad, at all!

I understand you're in a bit of a dilemma right now.

Yes, it's possible that your father might not do what he says he's going to do.

All in all, if I were in your position, I would take a chance and live with your father, so that I could potentially reap the benefits of DDD's programs.

I would also begin to save money towards obtaining your own apartment, should everything fall through.

You weren't born incorrectly. You are here, born correctly out of your mother, with the help of your father.

You're not doing too badly, actually. You have a job. You have the incentive to want to be independent, an adult.

What's holding you back is finances, possibly education, possibly your "isolated" location, but especially your parents' stubbornness.

I think you're smart enough to realize that everybody has SOMETHING. OCD, separation issues, Bipolar, autism, whatever. They were born correctly, too. Many people who have issues are able to live independent lives. Sometimes, they feel stymied by their issues; many times, they are able to break through whatever is conspiring to prevent them from achieving success.

I never asked you: have you ever considered college? Or perhaps you actually have a college degree?

Your parents are acting like ret*ds, frankly. If you're going to lose your college vouchers over this bullcrap......

I don't care if I'm not Politically Correct!

I'm letting my emotions get the best of me.

What is your major?

I know....they won't cosign for your student loans, either, right?

I apologize for the little rant.

I just wish you could just sit your parents down and inform them about the consequences of their actions.