ADHD problems

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Just wanted to start this thread for sharing things that ADHD people struggle with frequently that tend to be overlooked by society. Most people think ADHD is just fidgeting and a short attention span, but in reality it's a very pervasive disorder that affects every area of your life.

Here are some of mine:

- Having a conversation with someone and needing them to remind you of what the conversation was about

- Starting to say something and then forgetting what you were going to say mid-sentence

- Not following what the other person is saying in a conversation because you're too busy remembering what you were going to say next

- Constantly losing things

- Not being able to remember appointments, and sometimes getting booted from certain medical clinics or practices because you failed to show up one too many times

- Writing reminders for yourself and then forgetting to look at them when you need to

- Replying with "tl;dr" to any text post with long paragraphs, because there's no way in hell you're going to read all that sh*t

- Self-medicating with dark chocolate, Red Bull, and other legally available stimulants because your body built up a tolerance to Ritalin/Adderall and now it doesn't work anymore

I have a pet theory that all hardcore metalheads need fast music to act as a continuous reset to endure drudgery.
I must get a frontman to ask the audience "how many of you are prescribed Ritalin? (or equivalent)"

I don't have an ADHD diagnosis but probably should and I think that was glossed over when I was a kid because aspergers was what they chose to focus on. ADHD traits cause me more immediate issues, the social side of autism is just geekery in my case. They also completely skipped over my obvious tourettes. Their priorities were way off. But at the same time I've never bothered to seek diagnosis for either of those things because of the almost circular venn diagram of overlapping traits. Same again with dyspraxia, the signs of it were brought up in my assessment notes but it got counted as autism evidence. And growing up, people used to think my issues with focus and executive dysfunction and losing things was just a part of my aspergers anyway and treated it as such. Even though as a teenager I found descriptions of ADHD the most relatable.
I just came to the conclusion it's just two variants of the same kind of brain and either label probably covers it.

Remembering the dates of everyone's birthdays but not keeping track of what date it is currently, making you forget people's birthdays when they come around

Being renowned for stressing easily, yet remaining calm in real stressful situations or being able to cope with situations that NTs may not (your ability in this regard is often overlooked, as people assume that you'll be stressed so they avoid putting you in that situation, when actually that situation might actually be the best thing for you)

Doing stupid things on impulse, then getting into trouble for it, like at work. And then becoming angry and anxious because you feel misunderstood and easily picked on, and you feel frustrated with yourself for doing the stupid things without thinking of the consequences

Always having to touch and fiddle with things, unintentionally making it look like you're prying or something, but you're not, you just like to touch and feel - without breaking or losing it

Feeling unmotivated at work, yet bored when you have nothing to do

Being hyper-social, always having that urge to chat to colleagues or phone relatives and friends, which can sometimes put you in awkward situations at work, like being accused of "following" someone or being "nosy", but it's not about that, it's about longing for company and belonging

Sometimes getting the urge to be really hyper and annoying

Purchasing something you really want, then as soon as you have it you just leave it on the couch or on the floor or wherever for days, sometimes weeks, before you begin to use it

Getting easily distracted, restless, stressed, or excited

Seeking stimuli, such as bright colours and lights, chaotic environments (but not crowds as such), and change in routine or scenery

Being impatient, like if you're a pedestrian you wish pedestrians had right of way, but as soon as you're in a car or on a bus you agree that vehicles get the right of way. Also this is why I dislike crowds, it's not because of sensory overloads, it's just severe impatience with too many people in my way, a bit like road rage but in a store

Seeing your home cluttering up around you more and more but being unable to face sorting it out

Getting invested in unfinished projects

Avoiding watching movies on the TV where there are commercial breaks because you then easily lose interest in the movie

Not having a structured routine, or difficulty sticking to routines, which results in constipation and insomnia

Finding medication difficult to keep up. I remember to take the medication but renewing it each month seems to be stressful for me

Your desk at home is cluttered and unorganised and you look at it but don't quite know how to organise it

When you get a burning question in your head you have to ask Google straight away before it goes out your head. This often gets you into trouble at work

You couldn't organise a piss-up in a brewery, even though you want to (not literally)

TL; DR - this one may be the most interesting:-

You chafe under discipline or structure in the workplace and find that work is the hardest part of your life as an ADHDer. You have such a creative and unique mind, that you feel you're not really inclined for work, instead you'd rather be busying yourself at home where it's safe and there's no rules really, and having so much more time to work on creative projects. This appeals to you much more than turning up for a boring, repetitive job with loads of rules that you find petty or difficult to remember to follow (like health and safety rules)