I was recently dumped by my girlfriend of over 2 years...

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I was recently dumped by my gf of over 2 years because she finds me odd and says she can't deal with it anymore. Will I ever find anyone who can deal with me and my ways?

I'm sorry to hear that, I know how rough going through something like that is.

Maybe you'll meet someone else on the spectrum who will be more capable of understanding you, and if not, there are plenty of NT people who are with people like us, so it's definitely possible

Yeah, I hope so.

I'm sorry to hear that too.

I'm personally sort of hoping for an aspie girl, too. But I also pay close attention to how someone deals with or responds to mental health issues, when they're mentioned or otherwise come up -- actually, I pay close attention to this with friends and potential romantic partners.

If she can't deal with you, though? That is her problem, not yours. I don't know you, but I do know that there are people with far worse "ways" than yours, and two years is way more time than she needed to decide whether or not she could "deal". Just... good luck, and if you want to b***h about it, I'd be perfectly glad to give a few good insults a go despite not knowing her.

i'm really sorry to hear that. stuff like that is always tough.

But there is always someone out there that is perfect for you. Someone that can deal with you just the way you are. They just haven't met you yet!

Hang in there!! ! <3

Um, let me make sure I've got this right. She claimed to want you for two years, and now she says she finds you odd and can't deal? Sounds like either that's an excuse on her part, when there's really some other reason, or she just didn't pay enough attention to you to really get to know you, and now she's being judgmental about what she's finally noticed. Or maybe she didn't really care who she was with, as long as she wasn't single, and now she's decided to move on. To put it politely, "Tinkle on 'er!" Okay, I'm judging her without knowing her side. But it's more fun to try to cheer you up with a clever insult to her than to ponder depths of her psyche that are unknown to me.

Really, I have to say, you don't need the likes of her. I know you're hurt. You wouldn't have been with her if you hadn't cared about her. But something like this just seems like a smack in the face. You didn't deserve that. Save your time and energy for someone who loves you for who you really are, not someone who grits her teeth and tolerates you over things that are simply part of you. Anyone who can't accept you as you are shouldn't go wasting your time and setting you up for heartbreak by acting like being with you is some sort of exercise in coping.

Partners aren't perfect, and no relationship is without it snags along the way. Being together well over the long haul takes work. But it can only happen if you see each other for who you really are and love each other just that way. What did she think she was going to do with you during those two years? "Fix" you so you'd be more acceptable to her? Again, to be polite, "Turn a spiral-threaded cylinder in that bovine dropping!"