More masculine presenting female lesbians... wanna chat?

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I realy like dating and loving lesbian women who are more masculine presenting.. I don't ask why, I don't question it really, I just always have, and they have been attracted to me too (bonus).

What I have discovered though..
1. It's a bit like Mars vs Venus (we misunderstand each other)
2. I get mixed up.. treat her like a woman when she wants to be treated as more masculine, then treat her as more masculine, and she wishes I'd treat her more like a woman... anyone know what I'm talking about? are we femmes the same?
3. Is this all in my head? Why am I bothering with these concerns when we are all individuals? *head spin*
4. Does any butch woman truly understand that her femme has her own prejudices to contend with? She's not priveledged because she presents "more straight". Any comments?
5. Likewise... how can I find out how to love a butch women when she's not so open..? Time and listening? Sometimes I think I love her more than she realises. I leave her alone if she wants to be alone. And I don't expect her to return. Is this sort of thing appreciated?

I have many more thoughts and questions. I'm trying to navigate myself in realtionships/freindships with women.
1. Lesbian
2. Aspergers
3. Single female parent
4. Feminist
5. Creative (not practical)
6. Female mind

Gawd.. you couldn't likely get more opposite! Obviously this you might think is me talking from a stereotype, but it's not. I'm attracted to independant, practical, male minded women, so it is a reality for me that I'm talking about, not a stereotype. Some butch girls wear pink and don fluffy slippers. I don't have a problem with that. I don't have a problem with the fact that I may have to put up the shelves (even though they might fall down) lol.

7. Logical (I'm often not expected to be logical, mind you the emotional world is powerful.. I try to be emotionally intelligent and learn everything I can about what that is)

Metaphorically speaking, I'm a rainbow who also enjoys black and white and shades of grey. Hey I'm an artist, maybe that is where my head is at. My heart loves, wants to be loved and understood, and wants to love and understand another. Peace and friendship. How to build a relationship of intimacy with somebody so opposite and with all these social obstacles and prejudices within our own communities? Lots and lots of questions!! !

And one care to chat and discuss? Bring your thoughts and issues too? It would be really good to just chat.. femmes and butches.. generally.. about our relationships, minds, hearts, dreams, experiences, fears, loves, etc, etc, etc.

Yes, I am so female... look at how much I want to chat and explore! But I love butch women so much. You rock! I am very proud of you and all you represent whether that is something you have embraced or is a burden to you.. you are such brave women like us femmes are brave in our own way.

Help me understand you all so I can love you better!! !! !



Signed,
a happy femme,
soundofrain